I've been with my husband for 19 years. A few years ago he had an emotional affair that almost killed our marriage. I recently became aware of a relationship between him and another woman on facebook thats non physical. But of the frequency of there interactions and the things they say to one another thats viewable it struck up a red flag.
When i asked him about it he got defensive and started hiding things from me making me more paranoid. I tried sending her a friend request thinkng if it was harmless she'd accept. Well she blocked me. I called my husband and was upset. Why would she block me over a simple invite if there was nothing to hide? And no he never said anything to her of my questions.
Then later on today, My husband defriended and 'blocked' me on facebook. And doesn't understand why i am hurt since we live together. How many think what he did was wrong and hurtful? How many think its not a big deal and i am over reacting.
I feel like he is shutting me out. I am hurt by his actions. If i was being insecure he could have reassured me instead of hiding more and more and fueling my paranoid. And now this?
I should mention weve been together 19 years and have 3 kids under 13.