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what about when your husband is not that into you, what does it mean?

Posted by on Sep. 2, 2013 at 10:16 PM
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I like sex and Im always ready for my husband but I jave to beg him to have sex is that normal on a men?
by on Sep. 2, 2013 at 10:16 PM
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bonitalilmama
by on Sep. 2, 2013 at 10:17 PM
Not everyone has high sex drives
chata86
by on Sep. 2, 2013 at 10:23 PM
I talk to him about it every chance I have and is frustrating, is like he doesnt care he rather watch a movie that be with me is just crazy, when he is tired and he goes right to sleep is fine but about the times he is just watching a movie or his FB
Daisyducc
by Bronze Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 12:16 AM
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How old is he?  Drives definitely change as men age.  Family, work and other stress can also chip away at it.  Have you tried talking to him about it.  Not so much, "how come you don't want me?" but more, "I'm noticing that you aren't as relaxed and carefree as usual.  Is there anything I can do?  I miss you."

LadyBast
by Brenda on Sep. 3, 2013 at 8:33 AM

For some men yes it is !

Texasladybug84
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 8:53 AM
No usually there either not attracted to that person, there getting it somewhere else or there's a medical issue going on...
RheaF
by Silver Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 9:18 AM

 

Quoting Texasladybug84:

No usually there either not attracted to that person, there getting it somewhere else or there's a medical issue going on...

 I completly disagree. OP, do not jump the gun and think he's cheating,lol. People(Men and Women alike) all go through season with their libidos. It happens. Mine was an animal when we first got together. I am talking a couple times a day(we did not have kids,lol). Now he is happy if it's once a month,lol.  He is not cheating, or getting off with anyone(or anything) else than me. His libido is simply not as high as it once was. We have talked about it, because like you I had concerns. He told me that he simply does not need it as much anymore. Our marriage is great, and he feels secure and loved. He is also very affectionate outside of the bedroom. We hold hands and "snuggle". He will pull me aside for a quick make out session in the laundry room,lol. Stuff like that.

OP, is he choosing like, porn, over you? If so, then that is a big problem. If he is just not having sex all the time, talk to him(like an adult and don't go in accussing him of anything). Find out how he feels about sex and how much he feels like he really needs it. Maybe look at yourself as well, and try and see if there is an underlying reason you feel you need it all the time? Maybe try and come to a compromise. Just remember, it does not mean he is not attracted to you, or that he's cheating, or that there is something wrong. Not all men want it 24/7.

brannew
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 10:54 AM

I've been going through this for 8 flipping years.  It just gets worse.  I'm exhausted from trying so hard. 

Texasladybug84
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 1:11 PM
So u had to jump onto my reply? I guess my thoughts don't matter. Your a professional I guess. That's nice but she's asking for anyone's opinions not just YOURS


Quoting RheaF:

 


Quoting Texasladybug84:

No usually there either not attracted to that person, there getting it somewhere else or there's a medical issue going on...

 I completly disagree. OP, do not jump the gun and think he's cheating,lol. People(Men and Women alike) all go through season with their libidos. It happens. Mine was an animal when we first got together. I am talking a couple times a day(we did not have kids,lol). Now he is happy if it's once a month,lol.  He is not cheating, or getting off with anyone(or anything) else than me. His libido is simply not as high as it once was. We have talked about it, because like you I had concerns. He told me that he simply does not need it as much anymore. Our marriage is great, and he feels secure and loved. He is also very affectionate outside of the bedroom. We hold hands and "snuggle". He will pull me aside for a quick make out session in the laundry room,lol. Stuff like that.


OP, is he choosing like, porn, over you? If so, then that is a big problem. If he is just not having sex all the time, talk to him(like an adult and don't go in accussing him of anything). Find out how he feels about sex and how much he feels like he really needs it. Maybe look at yourself as well, and try and see if there is an underlying reason you feel you need it all the time? Maybe try and come to a compromise. Just remember, it does not mean he is not attracted to you, or that he's cheating, or that there is something wrong. Not all men want it 24/7.


disastermind
by on Sep. 3, 2013 at 1:15 PM

I wouldn't say it's not normal, I'd say maybe he has something going on medically that's causing him to have a low drive.

Serenity7
by Platinum Member on Sep. 3, 2013 at 1:21 PM

 You need to talk to your husband about it

 

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