So my husband of 20 years wants a separation. We have 3 kids, just moved cross country, and i thought we were happy. We never fought, sex life was better than ever. And 3 days ago he tells me this and leaves me in shock. He says he still loves me but doesnt know if he is in love with me and if he wants to be with me. Hes been depressed, low self esteem, and his career is failing apart. He says he needs to leave and build himself back up and find out what he wants. I agreed to it bc how can he really be happy with me if hes not happy with himself. And maybe once he sees what hes left he will realize what he had. Im having a really tough time with this. Him separating will mean he will be 1700 miles from us. I love him and this heartache is unbearable. Do i let him go or make him wait it out and give him space while he works out of this mental state. Weve qlso talked about cohabiting for the kids sake but i worry that will be too hard for each other. Any thoughts?
on Sep. 5, 2013 at 4:11 PM