How much help around the house is it reasonable to ask the husband of a WAHM?
Two weeks ago my 5 year old started school. At the same time I began watching a friend's baby and trying to make money writing articles online. My day starts at 6:50 and ends at 8:00 at night. I feel like adding my friend's baby has been like adding a full time job (I watch him for 8 hours a day). Don't get me wrong, he's a sweet baby, but just like all babies, he's a lot of work :)
I have never been a perfect housekeeper, but I manage not to have a disgusting house about 95% of the time lol. I don't really ask too much of my husband... he helps out whenever I ask, though.
What I want is for him to help me help the kids keep their rooms clean, help keep our room clean, do the dishes maybe twice a week, clear off the desk and the table daily and help remind kids to pick up after themselves when he's home. For him I think all of those things adds up to about a half hour a day of work. For me, no joke, keeping the house totally clean would be 5ish hours every day, on top of child care, getting kids to school and meal prep.
I'm feeling really overwhelmed and exhausted. My kids are feeling neglected and I find myself in that old trap of "I feel like I have so much to do that I can't get anything done".
I also need some time where the kids ask HIM for food and drinks and to fix their stuffed bunny's ears and for a song (ad infinitum). He's more than willing to let me have time to myself, but I feel like such a jerk leaving the house and probably spending 5 bucks on a latte while he's here at home with our kids... especially since we're trying to save money for a move.
Anyway, is that list of stuff too much to ask of him? Do I need to adjust and suck it up? Or is that reasonable?