Have you ever been freaked out about your husband's fantasy?
by Michele Zipp
"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Fantasies are fun to have but not always fun to act out. And some fantasies just should never be shared with others not even your wife or husband. When Chris* told his wife of 7 years Jamie* that his favorite fantasy is thinking of Jamie and her best friend Karen* getting frisky with each other it didn't go over very well. In fact, Jamie is now really freaked out and doesn't want to be in the same room with her best friend and husband for fear that things will get too weird for her wondering what's going on in her Chris's head. Tough one. I'll let Jamie explain the situation.
About two months ago Chris and I were out to dinner and having a great time and a few drinks when we started talking about sex. We do this a lot -- we have a great sex life and 3 kids to prove it. But what happened differently this time is he told me that he sometimes fantasizes about me and my best friend Karen having sex. WHAT IS THAT ABOUT????
I'm no prude or at least I didn't think so but I don't want my husband thinking about my best friends doing naughty things to me. I don't want him thinking about my best friend naked and me doing sexy things to her. It creeps me out. So I told him. And it didn't go over well because he was weirded out that I was weirded out and then we were both weird to each other and haven't had sex since.
Now this is odd for us -- we have sex quite often, probably about three or four times a week. And now we're both afraid to try sexy time stuff with the other one becasue of the huge best friend fantasy elephant in the room. And I don't want to have Karen over because I'm just freaked out about the whole darn thing and fear I will act weird or I'll think Chris is acting weird and so everything is just a bit wonky right now because of this fantasy I wish my husband didn't tell me about.
He feels awful and wishes he didn't tell me either. He's assured me it's no big thing and that I should just forget it but I can't.
What do you think Jamie should do? Should she just forget it and not make a big deal about it?
*Names have been changed.