I snooped. It was just common curiosity. I couldn't use my computer at home to do some work so I was on my DH's typing like mad. Sometimes I'd have to switch over to the internet and look something up. Well he had all these tabs open. One of which was his FB. It was open to a group page and we were going to go to an event for them so I just clicked over to see what was happening there. I've horrible work ADD. Always skipping around. Anyway, he had a convo up with his best friend. I love his best friend. It's totally hard to get along with my DH so I've always appreciated this guy being in our lives. He has a really messed up marriage. Like total disaster type. Anyway, so he (the best friend) was referring to me as The Warden in the convo. I've seen him do that before and I just roll my eyes because I'm a really laid back wife and they know it. Anyway, we have this event weds night and DH's BF was invited. It's a work type event in which we all get drunk and get tested by the cops. Yes, it's a real thing. lol It's how the cops get tested on their proficiency. Anyhow, they are always short on women which is why I'm doing it this year for the first time. I've always resisted doing it before because someone has to care for the kids and drive his drunk arse home afterward. So I am going with a friend of mine because they have 0 women volunteers. In the convo DH's BF is telling my DH that he doesn't want me to be there because he found 2 really hot skanks he'd like to bring and me being there would be a bummer. My DH responded completely fine. I'm not worried about him cheating on me. They'd ideally like to have 3 women and 3 men so they are still a woman short. So my DH was just saying they need 1 woman and if he brings hot skanks he's just going to be hooking the cops up with her anyway. Wow this got long and ranting. ANYWAY, I can't get over the betrayal of his BF. I'm totally hurt. I thought we'd always got along really well and I really valued him. I was there for him emotionally when his wife left him and I've babysat so he could go out with my DH. I just considered him a friend of mine as well as my DH's. Now I know he's clearly not and I feel like he might be trying to hook my DH up or something. A misery loves company type of thing I assume. Again, not worried about my DH doing anything. So I've been really bitchy since then every time my DH goes out with this guy. I don't want to tell my DH I snooped like that even though it started out totally legitimate. It's not like I set out to snoop. Oh how I wish I hadn't snooped. I can't ask DH to ditch this guy. DH really doesn't make friends well. This is his only friend and they've been friends since school. No way would I ask him to do that plus I really like having him gone doing things. It makes him happier which makes me happier and sometimes I send him off so that I can go do girly things. Should I fess up? Should I confront BF?