As i was going through the mail, i picked up my DH bank statement, to read it was addressed to him and another women.
So i questioned him about it, he said it was his ex from college, that he just never took off his account and he hasnt talked to her in 5 years.
So at first i just teased about her last name, (baldasso) lol sorry but i thought it was funny.
But as the conversation went on I got madder and madder. why had he never mentioned this to me? All our money goes into this account!! If her names on the account, she could get it anytime!!
He got mad and said if she hasnt done it after all this time she isnt going to now. Which just made me madder. If he hasnt talked to her in this long he dosent know her anymore, for all he knows shes a crack head begging for money and one day she'll wake up and remeber. Which yes sounds like a streach, but from what i had heard about her from his friends, i wouldnt doubt it. Still I know its unlikely, but ughhh im just so mad!!! In the two years we've been married, it never occured to him to AT LEAST tell me!!!
Hes acting like im completly blowing this out of control, but how would u feel? IM not even on his account, and im the mother of his children, but he put this stripper with a pill problem on it, and never took her off!!!!!!!
Thank you to the ones who showed support, but to the rest, i forgot what drama queens you can be, so let me correct myself and you before you keep on.
No, my name is not on his account, nor is his name on mine. Its both of our faults, its not that we dont want to, we just keep making excuses not to, mostly just because its more of a hassle to drag the kids into a bank screaming while we try and set things up. I worded it wrong when i said all our money goes into that account. All of HIS work check goes into that account, We have a seperate account that we put our savings into, that is in MY name. Thats just how we did it once we got married.
Yes i am a stay at home mom, and besides child support make no money of my own right now, but i am in charge of the finances. i control what goes where and when. I have the debit card unless he needs it. He is the one who wanted it that way. I check the balance and statements all online, which i have even double checked, nowhere says her name, so no i never would of known, except to find this statement.
If she was to steal the money, or something was to happen to him, my kids and I would be just fine. Its just the fact that i'd prefer the money my husband works for not go to some sleezy tramp from college. I just meant this to be a rant to get off my chest, not attack me because you think im unstable. Other than this my marriage and life is pretty awsome.