Let's say SO gets a lot of over time or does a side job or falls into a bit of extra cash.
Does your SO "start shopping" what ever that may be IE concert tickets, going out, buying guy stuff?
We are both divorced and recently married. We share expenses and discuss things but I notice a trend- he gets kinda spend happy.
Yes, I am conservative (so is he, he's not a big spender, we are aligned on this subject) on one hand I think, he deserves it he should get it, on the other hand I think, it's no that much money put it in savings.
I never say no, I don't want him coming back and wishing he had seen that concert or whatever. He gets 2 tickets one for him and his son, then he wants to get one for my daughter, then a small expense is a bigger expense... and then he hits Ebay...
He does ask me, but what am I gonna say- no? Then he gets all excited about the concert and it's all he can talk about. I don't care about the concert (for example) but it's almost like he's looking for my approval. Like I said, I don't say no but I find it really hard to say yes.