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Would you ever allow your husband to be with another woman?

Posted by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:01 AM
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Sex Confession: Wife Allowed Husband to Be With Another Woman

by Michele Zipp

set him free quote"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.

Paul* and Anna* have been married for seven years. They have a son who is 3 and seemingly have a happy marriage with no issues. And they are happy -- very happy Anna insists, but a little incident last year has made Anna concerned now. She allowed her husband to sleep with another woman. And he did. Just once. And they hadn't talked about it much until recently. I'll let Anna explain.

Paul and I have had those talks that so many couples do about who our free pass would be. Mine is Charlie Hunnam and we've joked about it when we watch Sons of Anarchy. (I can't wait for Fifty Shades of Grey movie!) Paul's free pass was Jennifer Lopez until one day when we were playfully discussing these celebrity crushes that we clearly never would have a chance with and he said he would add Jessica* to the list. Jessica is our friend. More his friend than mine, but I like her very much. She and Paul used to work together and we'd go out with her and her husband quite often before we had kids. Jessica ended up getting a new job and divorced, and moved about an hour away though Paul still kept in touch with her here and there.

For some reason I told him I would allow him to have a free pass with Jessica. I really thought I wasn't truly agreeing to anything. I never thought it would happen. And I wasn't even jealous when he told me she would be his free pass because I think it's healthy to be attracted to other people and playfully think about it. He was telling me about it so I just thought it was just that -- him telling me he had the hots for his friend Jessica.

This was last year. And a few weeks after that conversation, he told me he spoke to Jessica and she was into it. He wanted me to honor that free pass. So I did. And I regret it.

Maybe I didn't think it would really happen. Maybe I was shocked that he actually asked her if she wanted to have sex with him. But it happened. Just once. And I can't help but feel totally insecure in my relationship now even though I said it was okay. We never discussed it in those early days after it happened. But in the last few months I've wanted to know more. He says it wasn't that great. That he thought about me. That they don't really talk anymore as friends. But I'm not sure how to deal with it all.

What do you think Anna should do?

Would you ever allow your husband to be with another woman?

 

*Names have been changed.

by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:01 AM
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SyllabaryBisque
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:02 AM
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NEVER.
Lorena
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:08 AM
No, I couldn't.
BonitaM
by Ruby Member on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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Not to go off by himself no, but maybe with me.  I'm not sure I'd actually be able to go through with it and it would have to be a complete stranger not a friend of ours.  It really turns me on to think of him with someone else.

babygirl4326
by Member on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:11 AM

She bit off MORE than she could chew!!

RheaF
by Silver Member on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:20 AM
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No, she was an idiot!!! He was an ass who took advantage.

There is NO room in my marriage for anyone, or anything else. We do t even entertain the "free pass" notion.
Beautiful31mom
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:33 AM

nope

2lilmamas
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:36 AM
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No free pass. For that why even get married. She is b*tch for even considering it knowing he is married. And he's an a**hole for even crossing the line. This one time occurence will allow him to slip again. Smh
Nunyabusiness
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:38 AM

Hell no.

CorpCityGrl
by Bronze Member on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:41 AM
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NEVER!

She was very naive in thinking that a "free pass" would work and do nothing to their relationship or to each other.  Maybe she thought she was being the cool and easy-going wife, but I think it's just delusional.  He, on the other hand, was an ass for turning in that free pass.  The fact that he actively went out and spoke to this other woman about it beforehand should've made her leery to begin with.  It's a slippery slope and this sets a bad precendence in their relationship.


la_bella_vita
by Bella on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:51 AM

 Never

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