by Michele Zipp
"Sex Confessions" is a series featuring your naughtiest bedroom secrets and fantasies. Some will sound familiar, others may give you ideas, some will turn you on, and some are dark and twisted. You might want to sit down for this.
Corey* has been married for four years to Steven* -- the couple
has a 1-year-old daughter and Steven's mom lives with them. Things have
been great, Corey says, but her husband has recently wanted to get kinky
in a way they haven't really before. He's really into biting.
And she likes it. But it's not the biting that is concerning her, it's
the marks those bites make particularly if they are on her neck. Yes,
she's worried about hickeys mostly because her mother-in-law is always
around. I'll let Corey explain more.
We have a household that works well. Steven's mom lives mainly downstairs but of course she's often with us and helping take care of our daughter when we have to work. We all respect each other's privacy -- so no issue there. The issue that has recently presented itself is that Steven loves giving me hickey. Love bites, he calls them. All over my body. That's fine -- I love it. But I'm so worried about him marking up my neck and his mom is going to see. I'm also worried about my job seeing, people in the grocery store -- I just don't want these love bites to be seen!
I've asked Steven to be more mindful. But he gets carried away. I can put makeup on them but it doesn't always last and it's annoying to have to constantly worry about if there is a mark showing. I'm all for public displays, but this is too much. It has started to make me freak out whenever Steven kisses me on the neck. I jump. And it's weird because I do it now all the time. Even if he's just coming up behind me to kiss me on the neck -- without biting -- while I'm doing the dishes or cooking or whatever.
He doesn't get why I'm so worried about it. And I don't want to fight with him over it, but I just want him to stop marking up my neck. Why can't this man get that through his thick head? I kid. I love him. I love the nibbles. But ... it's kind of embarrassing when they show.
What do you think? Should she be embarrassed? Should her husband try to tone it down?