We are finally on the same page AND I love him more for it!!
Dh and I have been at odds for one reason or anothe for the last 2 years. I have gone to therapy to understand what needs to be work on and if there was something that I was doing to contribute to our problems. I have fixed what I needed to fix and DH didn't. Finally I got tired of just looking the other way and swollowing my "needs".
I started to fight for myself and my needs. I confronted him on EVERYTHING, I told him everything the therapist told me was a problem. Finally I told him if he didn't acknowledged he has things he needed to work on I was taking dd and leaving. He has had two appointments with the same therapist I have been seeing and we have had a couple of majory fights where I held nothing back and he is now seeing that there are things that he needs to work on.
One of the things I did tell him is if there is anything about me or my behaviour that is an issue he needs to speak up about it so we can address it. I know that a marriage takes two to make it work and I am not willing to let my marriage fail for the lack of effort.
I love him and He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He pulled me from a very dark place and showed me what real love was. He now understands that I want to get back to that kind of love with him. I also know that he feels like I don't "need " him anymore because over the last 5 years I have grown as a person and it makes him feel lost and uncertain about us. After the last few conversations I have had with him I know we will make it because above all we LOVE each other and have not lost that with everything we have been through.