Relationships fall apart every day. That's one of their defining characteristics. After all, they can only go one of two ways. Either you stay with someone forever, or you eventually break up. What causes the breakups, now that's where the possibilities truly become endless.
One of the ickiest ways of losing a partner is finding out that they were cheating on you with someone else. This hurts no matter what state your relationship was in. Very often, you might have been thinking about ending things yourself. You aren't hurt by cheating exclusively because you're crazy in love. You're hurt because of the lying.
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Of course, that's all easy to say when you aren't in the thick of it. When you've discovered that your paramour is para-ing with someone else, it's tough to be, uh, remotely objective. Easier by far to point the finger of blame. Point it at him or, better yet, at the homewrecking hussy who trashed your beautiful relationship! There is a reason so many cliches exist about batshit exes -- cheat on a woman and get caught? The result will not be a pleasant one ... for anyone
That doesn't mean lashing out is going to help things. Very often, it makes things worse. Take this website dedicated to "destroying" the life of "homewreckers." On the site, the names, photos, and personal information of women called "homewreckers" are displayed for all and sundry. It's like a virtual blame book -- only the authors are adult, not immature teens.
Here's why this is a terrible idea, in case that wasn't clear enough already. How many of these women do you think knew that they were seeing men already in a relationship? Because kid, if he's lying to you -- what's gonna keep him from lying to his next bit of strange? Nada, my friend. The answer is nada. It's also INHERENTLY SEXIST to punish the woman this way. Rather than be furious -- in a healthy way, of course -- at the person who violated your trust, you're going after another lady? Screw that. With a website like this, nobody wins.
Have you ever been tempted to get revenge when you found out your partner was cheating?