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anyone else out there feeling this way?

Posted by on Nov. 18, 2013 at 6:47 PM
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So my Boyfriend I would say is not the stereotypical male that thinks about sex all the time. He's always had a lower sex drive than myself. But lately (since our daughter was born 9 months ago) he has had a very low sex drive. Lower than normal. I haven't even felt that connection lately. Not as many kisses and hugs. And the most he was into sex was when he was gone for a week and when he got back. Not going to lie.. we've had sex 1 time in 3 months. I know that a new baby and our first is tiring but I've tried putting the effort in and not getting anything in return. And sometimes the paranoia sets in. We've been together for almost 4 1/2 years and I would never doubt his faithfulness. But sometimes I worry that I'm not enough anymore. I've lost all baby weight and some and just don't feel like I'm attactive to him.


Any suggestions?

by on Nov. 18, 2013 at 6:47 PM
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Fayanne
by Gold Member on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:02 PM
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 no suggestions, but if you're so insecure, why did you have a baby outside of marriage?

newmom218
by on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:08 PM

I'm not insecure in the relationship or with him. I just haven't recieved the same attention/affection I did before baby. I wouldn't change a thing that she was born outside of marriage. Just a piece of paper. This site is for positive input and advice and support for other mothers. Please don't post on my post with negativity.


Quoting Fayanne:

 no suggestions, but if you're so insecure, why did you have a baby outside of marriage?



lapcounter
by Gold Member on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:10 PM
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Jesus I hate the saying "it's just a piece of paper."

Quoting newmom218:

I'm not insecure in the relationship or with him. I just haven't recieved the same attention/affection I did before baby. I wouldn't change a thing that she was born outside of marriage. Just a piece of paper. This site is for positive input and advice and support for other mothers. Please don't post on my post with negativity.



Quoting Fayanne:

 no suggestions, but if you're so insecure, why did you have a baby outside of marriage?




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Fayanne
by Gold Member on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:12 PM

 please don't post on her post with negativity!

Quoting lapcounter:

Jesus I hate the saying "it's just a piece of paper."

Quoting newmom218:

I'm not insecure in the relationship or with him. I just haven't recieved the same attention/affection I did before baby. I wouldn't change a thing that she was born outside of marriage. Just a piece of paper. This site is for positive input and advice and support for other mothers. Please don't post on my post with negativity.

 


Quoting Fayanne:

 no suggestions, but if you're so insecure, why did you have a baby outside of marriage?

 


 

 

                   
    Life is divine chaos
Embrace it.  Forgive  yourself.   Breathe
           And enjoy the ride....   

newmom218
by on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:13 PM
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I know marriage is more than a piece of paper. But if we are happy and commited in our relationship enough to want a child together being married or not wouldn't have changed our minds.

Quoting lapcounter:

Jesus I hate the saying "it's just a piece of paper."

Quoting newmom218:

I'm not insecure in the relationship or with him. I just haven't recieved the same attention/affection I did before baby. I wouldn't change a thing that she was born outside of marriage. Just a piece of paper. This site is for positive input and advice and support for other mothers. Please don't post on my post with negativity.



Quoting Fayanne:

 no suggestions, but if you're so insecure, why did you have a baby outside of marriage?






lapcounter
by Gold Member on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:15 PM
LOL.

Quoting Fayanne:

 please don't post on her post with negativity!


Quoting lapcounter:

Jesus I hate the saying "it's just a piece of paper."


Quoting newmom218:


I'm not insecure in the relationship or with him. I just haven't recieved the same attention/affection I did before baby. I wouldn't change a thing that she was born outside of marriage. Just a piece of paper. This site is for positive input and advice and support for other mothers. Please don't post on my post with negativity.


 



Quoting Fayanne:


 no suggestions, but if you're so insecure, why did you have a baby outside of marriage?


 



 


 

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Hottmomma607
by Trica on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:15 PM
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Sorry to say but if you are saying "I'm not as attractive as I was before my baby!" That's signs of insecurity! And you haven't been feeling the same love again signs of insecurity that is not negative we all have felt that way!
Have you talked to him?


Quoting newmom218:

I'm not insecure in the relationship or with him. I just haven't recieved the same attention/affection I did before baby. I wouldn't change a thing that she was born outside of marriage. Just a piece of paper. This site is for positive input and advice and support for other mothers. Please don't post on my post with negativity.



Quoting Fayanne:

 no suggestions, but if you're so insecure, why did you have a baby outside of marriage?




Hottmomma607
by Trica on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:16 PM
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Ladies be good or time out corner! lol
:-)


Quoting lapcounter:

LOL.



Quoting Fayanne:

 please don't post on her post with negativity!



Quoting lapcounter:

Jesus I hate the saying "it's just a piece of paper."



Quoting newmom218:



I'm not insecure in the relationship or with him. I just haven't recieved the same attention/affection I did before baby. I wouldn't change a thing that she was born outside of marriage. Just a piece of paper. This site is for positive input and advice and support for other mothers. Please don't post on my post with negativity.



 




Quoting Fayanne:



 no suggestions, but if you're so insecure, why did you have a baby outside of marriage?



 




 



 

newmom218
by on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:21 PM

This is a reminder as to why I haven't posted in here in a long time.

 Maybe I'll try again in another 6 months or not.


Hottmomma607
by Trica on Nov. 18, 2013 at 7:28 PM
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Well sorry you are not getting what you want. But everyone is entitled to their own opinions. Outside looking in,how would you access your situation? You can't fix anything if you can't truly understand what's going on.

Quoting newmom218:

This is a reminder as to why I haven't posted in here in a long time.

 Maybe I'll try again in another 6 months or not.


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