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What have you stopped doing in your relationship that you would like to do again?

Posted by on Nov. 29, 2013 at 9:46 AM
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7 Things Married Couples Should Keep Doing Long After the Honeymoon Is Over

by Sasha Brown-Worsham

marriage All marriages inevitably go through some rough patches. It's just impossible to spend more than 50 years (God willing) with a person and never have any difficulties. But one of the most telling signs of rough waters ahead is when you start to give up things you used to love together.

Early on in dating, there is almost non-stop smooching, texting just to see how the other person is, and butterflies in the stomach. I know when my now husband and I started dating, I couldn't think about anything else but him, when I was going to see him again. Things have changed, though, 12 years later. I still adore him, but some things -- kissing, hand-holding, staying up all night talking -- have fallen by the wayside. They shouldn't, though. Here are 7 things married couples need to take from newly dating couples:

1.) Holding hands: Sometimes you should hold hands like you are in middle school. We all know you graduated to sex years ago, but remember a more innocent time when his hand around yours could make you squeal.

2.) Flirting with each other: For some reason, married couples always let this one go and they need to STOP that. Flirting is the way men and women communicate. So bat those eyelashes and brush his knee in a dark theater. Let it send a thrill up your spine.

3.) REALLY listening to his stories: We have heard each other's stories a million times and tend to get bored. Well don't. Really sit and listen to his tales. Hear about his day at work and rediscover the man you married.

4.) Trying new restaurants: The kids shouldn't stop your exploration. Visit news places, eat new foods, and go on adventures. You will be much happier.

5.) Buying little gifts/flowers: When you are dating, these things are part of the package, but they quickly fall away as you get deeper into marriage. Stop that! Make it happen again. Bring home flowers for no reason or small trinkets you saw that he might like.

6.) Dressing up: Change out of those sweatpants once a week and care about what he thinks about you again. I promise it will make many things happen all over again.

7.) Butterflies: Remember how he used to make you feel? Do your best to remember that and get that butterfly feeling again. It's just appreciation, pure and simple. Nothing feels better.

What have you stopped doing that you would like to do again?

by on Nov. 29, 2013 at 9:46 AM
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by Kendall on Nov. 29, 2013 at 9:54 AM

Dating..  I miss dating.  The money hasn't been there to be able to do that in the last few years but hopefully we're getting back to that really soon!  I miss one-on-one time with him OUTSIDE of every day life.  I want to be able to sit down with him, have a nice meal, laugh and talk and just be "us" for an hour or two.  I love being a mom, but I'm still a WIFE!!  LOL

by on Nov. 29, 2013 at 9:57 AM

I miss date nights. We used to go out once a month but with everything going on lately we've stopped.

by Member on Nov. 29, 2013 at 10:46 AM
I miss having conversations with him. It seems like we don't talk at all anymore
by on Nov. 29, 2013 at 12:05 PM

 We still do all those things as much if not more than early on over 10+ yrs ago, because when we found eachother and  fell in love , between us we had 5 kids all at once in  the same age range for us to focus on and raise. We MADE couple time too but we had to make sure to MAKE that time.

Now that the kids are all adults on their own we get to do all those loving things we never stopped doing and do them even more than before because we have so much us time and so much privacy and it feels like a never ending honeymoon to us. Unlike most couples we never had all alone years before having kids we had 5 kids from the moment we met and really enjoyed that time  but we are really enjoying this US time too..

We flirt a LOT daily, we hold hands and make out a lot, we express love alot and email eachother even when he's at work and get to go on more dates than ever. : ) YAY FUN!

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by Bronze Member on Nov. 29, 2013 at 12:07 PM
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Time with just each other, it's been almost a year some the last time we had a bed to ourselves, when you share one room with two toddlers it's hard to get them to sleep in their beds even though they both have one!
by on Nov. 29, 2013 at 12:10 PM
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Dh and I still do all of that after being together for 13 years. The only thing that I need to do more is to dress up. After having mostly maternity and huge clothes in my closet, I've lost weight and need to go shopping for myself again. I need more cute clothes!
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by Trica on Nov. 29, 2013 at 12:27 PM
We still do a lot of things! But I hate getting too busy and miss our date nights!
by Bronze Member on Nov. 29, 2013 at 12:32 PM
I miss the nights when we would get in the truck and ride the back roads late at night, wondering where we'll end up before going home.
by Bronze Member on Nov. 29, 2013 at 1:23 PM
Liking each other. We are in a down time right now and not really liking each other. I'll be happy when we swing into the good times again. Been together almost 20 years and have had a lot of ups and downs.
by Emily on Nov. 29, 2013 at 3:46 PM
Keeping each other up all night talking. I miss the butterflies and flirting. Dh is very grabby and I don't like it at all so I'm always on guard around him I wish I could be around him and be relaxed I hate always having to make sure he's not going to pinch me. I've told him.i really hate it but he doesn't care.
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