Dh cheated a while back, I found out a year ago I also found out he was watching a ton of porn which is something he lied to me about and knew it hurt. Anyways, we tried working things out. At first it went a bit better, I got pregnant with this baby during that time. A few weeks after getting pregnant I found out that he had had other affairs and things have just gotten worse since.
He told me he would delete Facebook, MySpace all that stuff and he did. He said I could have passwords to everything and I do. He said I could check his phone anytime I want to and sometimes I do.
None of this makes me feel any better though. I wonder if some of the contacts in his phone are really women and he's given them a guys name. Some of the calls that don't have a name u wonder if they are other women. I wonder if he is just hiding things better and has secret accounts or erases certain things and leaves the stuff that makes him look innocent.
All communication is literally dead anymore. We don't text or call each other through the day like we did while he was at work (like on breaks) when he gets home he eats, showers, does paper work. I tend to the kids and finish cleaning up. Then the kids and I bathe by that time it's like 8:30. Giving us about an hour and a half to spend time together. We both agreed the quality of time needed to be better and we wanted more romance and affection. But nothing happens.
I don't know how to make anything happen. He gets on his phone then I will. Or he gets his nose stuck in the tv and he acts like in a wench for asking to turn it off. The kids constantly end up interrupting us mainly our littlest so it's hard when a conversation does start because we can't focus. Babysitters aren't an option. We are financially having a difficult time due to his hours being cut back. And we have no family to watch the kids. After they are in bed we just sit there neither of us can think of anything to say.
How do you find things to do or to talk about in your relationship?