My husband used to charge his phone in the kitchen when he went to bed and I knew his pass code. All of sudden, he has changed his passcode and hides his phone. When I ask who he's texting or talking to all I get is "a friend." I hacked into his facebook account last night and found some messages from girls. One message dates back to a year or so ago. He told her that he was going to divorce me. Well, then things got "better." But in recent messages he is flirting, more than flirting. I think he may have sent her a dirty pic. He claims he's planning on a trip to visit her after the new year when he gets vacation and sick days and he's going to make it a night she'll never forget. He claims I'm selfish. He also has been acting as an asshole (excuse the language) lately. I'm wondering if he isn't doing this on purpose now so that I'll have had enough and leave him so that he says it's my fault.
In another message to his former girlfriend and fiance he was complaining about our sex life. Said that I only like to do 2 positions. We only do two positions but I would like to do more but he's just as guilty in not getting adventurous as I am. The problem is I could give it up every day and he'd still complain that he's not getting it because he wants it all the time. My period has been messed up lately and neither one of us like to do it when I'm on it.
If he didn't have to be up early to go to work and since he drives a semi and needs to be alert, I would have confronted him last night. I had planned to rock his world last night but after I saw those messages and lost the feeling. I slept in the same bed but I made sure I was as far as I could be from him and didn't touch him. I know he's going to be mad that I hacked into his account but he gave me grounds to acting so funny, right?
I don't want to leave him as I love him. He's my world. I have already been through a divorce with my older boys and I don't want to subject that to them again nor to the other two. We recovered from something similar a few years ago but I don't know if we can recover again. Oh, and all the problems I mentioned, he has never discussed with me. He has led me to believe that things are fine. Sorry, this is long but I needed to vent somewhere and to get advice. I have no parents to talk to and I don't have a best friend other than him.
I confronted him about his actions. He is very remorseful and willing to do whatever it takes to make it better. He deleted all the numbers of the girls he was texting and was willing to deactivate his facebook account. We do have some other issues to work through and I told him that the only way I'll stay and work on it was if we go to counseling. We have an appointment on Friday with our pastor.