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Need advice!!!!! Why do I not feel sexy around my husband anymore.. Whats wrong with me

Posted by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 7:17 AM
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So I can not figure out what is goin on with my husband and I... it first started on Sunday night we wanted to make love and normally I can get him in the mood with the touch of my hand or something but nothing... had to watch a porn to get hard and then turned it off and we made love... Now last night I wanted it again and he kept saying just wait and then he was looking for a song on his phone.. Like really what the hell is wrong with this picture... I was going to let him rock my world but I said forget it and went to bed.

Oh and when I go on his browser history on his phone i came across CL personals.. WTF really and he said he had no idea where that came from...

I really don't know what to think.. he does deliverly so he is out driving 12 hours a day so i really don't know what is going on...And to top that off he wants to go get another job.. I said ur going to kill yourself if you do that..


by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 7:17 AM
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MethuenMom
by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 7:34 AM
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 Stress is a big mood killer.  I wouldn't take it too personally.  Maybe you can do a little planning ahead of time.  Select a day where he comes home and you have his favorite meal ready, kids bathed and ready for bed or at least out of sight and you two can sit and have a nice romatic dinner together.  Ask him if he wants a backrub and then maybe give him a little pillow talk in his ear.

Releasing stress may release whatever is holding the mood back.  Good Luck!

islandsapril12
by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 7:42 AM

Thanks for the advice definatly have to plan that.. hopefully on a night when my son can go over to my inlaws so we could have the night to ourselves...

Quoting MethuenMom:

 Stress is a big mood killer.  I wouldn't take it too personally.  Maybe you can do a little planning ahead of time.  Select a day where he comes home and you have his favorite meal ready, kids bathed and ready for bed or at least out of sight and you two can sit and have a nice romatic dinner together.  Ask him if he wants a backrub and then maybe give him a little pillow talk in his ear.

Releasing stress may release whatever is holding the mood back.  Good Luck!


lucky2Beeme
by Silver Member on Jan. 8, 2014 at 8:32 AM
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you need to set aside couple time. Make your relationship a priority. Sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Tell him how you feel but NO accusing him . Ask him what you two can do to bring the romance and intimacy back.

LadyBast
by Brenda on Jan. 8, 2014 at 10:18 AM
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Talk to him you will never know and keep assuming and that is not good.. And the more stress and you pushing the issue the worse it gets...

awebber4
by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 11:22 AM
Depending on how long you guys have been together, but maybe the honeymoon phase is over and he would just like some time of his own other than going to work. Dont take it personally, if you dont feel sexy, do things to make yourself feel sexier, put make up on, wear something thats a little tight or compliments your figure and compliment yourself when you look in the mirror. Maybe he accidentally went into cl personals or he was curious. Try to. Investigate more about this
MiriRose923
by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 11:33 AM

How long have you been married?  I think it's normal for every marriage to experience ups and downs in this area.  I agree with the previous poster that suggested talking this out with your husband in a non-accusatory way. 

islandsapril12
by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 11:39 AM

Definatly will make time for that.. We do need romance and intimacy back in our relationship..Thanks

Quoting lucky2Beeme:

you need to set aside couple time. Make your relationship a priority. Sit down and have a heart to heart with him. Tell him how you feel but NO accusing him . Ask him what you two can do to bring the romance and intimacy back.


islandsapril12
by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 11:40 AM

Thanks I will we did talk on the phone for a while my phone almost died.. we used to always do that we should get back into doing that again.

Quoting LadyBast:

Talk to him you will never know and keep assuming and that is not good.. And the more stress and you pushing the issue the worse it gets...


islandsapril12
by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 11:42 AM

we have been married for almost 2 years, yes i think we will talk about it.. Thanks

Quoting MiriRose923:

How long have you been married?  I think it's normal for every marriage to experience ups and downs in this area.  I agree with the previous poster that suggested talking this out with your husband in a non-accusatory way. 


furbabymum
by on Jan. 8, 2014 at 11:45 AM

 I was on CL personals and posting them on a CM CL funny post. So don't jump directly to conclusions. I do think you should be cautious though. Something is up. He may be having a health problem. He may be experiencing too much stress. He may be thinking about straying from the marriage. Who knows. You have to find out though.

Why does he want another job? Is money tight? Can you assist him with that? I'm not saying get a job either. You can help by being more finacially concious in the runninng of the household.

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