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Porn in a marriage yes or no!

Posted by on Jan. 21, 2014 at 5:40 PM
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  My husband and I have been married for 16yrs. We have always battled the porn and dirty magazines on and off. I'm getting to the point I'm over it! Makes me feel less of a woman and there is nothing I can't do to blow his mine like that stuff. If hes not looking up any of that from fear I might catch him, he loads wallpapers on his phones which he can see very sexy women. How do you ladies deal with it? Do you allow it or not? Am I over-reacting???

by on Jan. 21, 2014 at 5:40 PM
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BonitaM
by Platinum Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 5:47 PM
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I'm the one who introduced him to porn.  We both like it and we both watch it together or seperately. 

Rockabella
by Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 5:49 PM
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I hate porn it doesn't belong in our marriage. Everyone's different though I know several people who don't mind it
Docgirl2000
by Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 5:52 PM
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Dh actually introduced me to it, but same here. We both watch it, together and separate. Im the only one that reads erotic lit tho.

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I'm the one who introduced him to porn.  We both like it and we both watch it together or seperately. 

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Tiredmom53
by Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 5:53 PM
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Honey I have been married a lot longer then you, I do not allow that smuck in my house.  If anyone is going to turn him on it is me, me, me! He has never asked for it either.

HaileysMom07180
by Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 5:55 PM

it doesn't bother me

charley31
by Bronze Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 5:56 PM
Everyone is diff and has diff marriages. I don't judge either way but it def doesn't bother me and we have watched it together. Not often but if he wants to I don't get upset.
nsrush83
by on Jan. 21, 2014 at 6:00 PM

No

MagicTemptation
by Christina on Jan. 21, 2014 at 6:19 PM
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I can't offer advice. I am completely fine with it. He picks on my because my collection was larger than his when we met.

Fayanne
by Silver Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 6:23 PM
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 I don't have to 'not allow it'.

Out of respect for me, and himself, he just doesn't go there.

anotherandree
by Bronze Member on Jan. 21, 2014 at 6:30 PM
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My husband doesn't watch it but we have when we were first married.  It was something that we did together.  However, as we got older and we just kinda, well, stopped, I asked him to stop as well.  I explained to him, how it made me feel, why I did not like it, and how disrespected I felt.  I really sat down and thought about all the emotions that were tied to just that one action before I presented it to him so that way we could have a conversation.  Further, I needed to hear what he was lacking, but was getting fulfilled by watching porn.  In the end, the conversation proved to be a two-way street and actually made our marriage stronger.

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