As a child from a marriage where there should have been a divorce, LEAVE.. Don't let your child grow up in a house of resentment and constant underlying tension. It's a miserable life..and your child is watching this and thinking this is "normal". Do you truly want your child to grow up with that as the example of a marriage?
what's it doing for the child?
My parents divorced when I was very young...it was for the best as they cannot stand each other. But I am from the school of thought that if the marriage is not abusive...verbally, physically or psychologically...then you should do everything in your power to stay with your husband...counseling, workshops, etc.
I am definitely not one to say, just leave. it is not that easy and it is hard on the kids either way. I believe marriage is forever...and if you have fallen out of love or feel like you are living with a roommate, then there needs to be open and honest communication and work done to get the marriage back and solid footing. (again, with the caveat that there is no abuse taking place).
Quoting Kayla00: I feel like this is true sometimes im sure he can tell mommy isn't happy..a big reason I stay is kinda selfish but I cant stand to think of the idea of being away from my son and sharing custody with his father..it's such a hard decision to make :/
My DH and I broke up when I was about 4 months pregnant with our oldest daughter. If I hadn't been pregnant with her, we never would have gotten back together, gotten married, or had our other children. There were definitely rough times in our relationship where we were literally only together for our kids, but we pushed through. I can't say that things are perfect now, but we're working on being partners rather than just husband and wife.
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