So my husband and I have been together for nearly 16 years. In high school we smoked and quit together shortly after we quit he started chewing and hid it from me then he quit that for over 10 years. Well the past few years he has started chewing and hids it from me, then I find out and he quits, then does it all over again. I HATE chew, it is absolutely disgusting...he doesn't do it around me but all I have to do is look at him and I picture him doing it and I want to throw up. I know he has an addiction and needs help, but he doesn't really want help right now, he keeps quitting because he knows I want him to not because he wants to. I know I need to be the good wife that stays by his side and supports him thru this, but how can we have a healthy relationship when I am disgusted thinking about him doing it or looking at him. I don't want to kiss him. How do I get over this so I can be there for him to help him thru this? Anyone else go thru similar situations or have any advice?