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Has your husband or boyfriend ever responded to one of your questions with brutal honesty?

Posted by on Mar. 4, 2014 at 9:04 AM
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6 Things You Shouldn’t Ask Your Husband at the ‘Most Honest’ Time of the Day

by Lisa Fogarty

If you want an honest answer from someone, don't wait until after lunch or -- heaven forbid -- after dinner. According to a new study, our chances of lying about anything increase and our morality takes a serious dip as the day wears on. In fact, 20 to 50 percent of people are more likely to cheat on tests in the afternoon. Researchers are blaming the fact that we simply get tired and more drained as the hours unfold.

None of this is too surprising, but one takeaway those of us in relationships can gain from this bit of news is that we should never, under any circumstances, ask our husbands or boyfriends the following 6 questions at the breakfast table -- not unless you're prepared for sheer, brutal honesty.

1. Where did you go last Tuesday with your friends? He already told you: he went out for a quiet dinner. Which is what all guys do when they get together with their friends, of course.

2. Did you actually make the baby dinner from scratch when I was out or did you open up a jar of food from the grocery store? Answer: the baby ate processed strained peaches that didn't see the inside of your food processor first. Let it go -- at least you got to get out of the house.

3. Do you think I'm fat? No, but I think you're crazy for asking such a thing. And, if it's 8 in the morning, I may be honest enough to answer that you're not fat, but your "plump cheeks" are just so darn cute. Which isn't at all what you want to hear.

4. What do you really think of my mother? If you have to ask the question, chances are he is super smart for keeping his actual thoughts about dear old mom to himself. Don't force him to reveal them now.

5. Which of my friends would you date if we weren’t together? Is there any way for anyone to answer this question? What you're digging for is the reply, "No one is as amazing as you." But even you know your friend Amy is pretty cute, so if you're expecting him to be honest, why would you think he hasn't noticed her too?

6. Do you REALLY like my new haircut/outfit? Save yourself the time and energy. Unless you've shaved off your head, he hasn't noticed. And unless you're married to Marc Jacobs and rely on his style savvy to make you a snappier dresser, that's probably for the best.

Has your husband or boyfriend ever responded to one of your questions with brutal honesty?

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Brattzilla
by Bronze Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 9:10 AM

He is always brutally honest. He has no filter..  If i ask him a question, there are no worries of sugar coating, or half truths. If it hurts your feelings, well to bad, he calls it like he see's it.

he is definitely the kind of guy.. If you dont want the answer, dont ask the question. lol

Joie35
by Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 9:16 AM
My fiance is soooo honest it irritates me.kind of. But I've had to learn he hates it when I sugar coat things to him so I have to be blunt and honest when communicating with him as well.
RheaF
by Silver Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 9:17 AM

 Honest yes, brutal, no. Then again, when I hear "brutal honesty" I think of harsh words and a deamining attitude. DH has never done that, however, he is honest with me. No need to lie about anything.

mrsbrand
by Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 9:23 AM
My husband is honest but kind. "Sweetie you're beautiful, but those pants aren't flattering, what about the other pair that are similar?" "I like when you style your hair like that, but is there another hairspray you can get? This one doesn't smell so great" "You're makeup looks great, but the teasing in the back of your hairstyle isn't smoothed over like you normally have it"

He's kind about it and never just volunteers an opinion, its always when I ask. And I ask often because he has great taste and a good eye for something being out of place.
Brattzilla
by Bronze Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 9:23 AM

well if the term "brutal" is meant as a mean gesture, then no.  My Dh is never harsh in his choice in his words or his actions..however, he level of honesty regardless of the nature... he will tell you like he see's it , and no i dont always LIKE his view.   But he is never, nasty.

Quoting RheaF:

 Honest yes, brutal, no. Then again, when I hear "brutal honesty" I think of harsh words and a deamining attitude. DH has never done that, however, he is honest with me. No need to lie about anything.


 Signed "The Brat"


family in the van

Callaly
by Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 4:08 PM

 He is very honest, to the point where I ask myself.. are you in the emotional state to get the 100% truth today? If yes I ask him, if no, I ask a friend lol

LadyBast
by Brenda on Mar. 4, 2014 at 4:10 PM

Yes and I am glad! Does not bother me or I would not ask!

Brattzilla
by Bronze Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 4:13 PM

LOL This is so me, also LOL !!!

Quoting Callaly:

 He is very honest, to the point where I ask myself.. are you in the emotional state to get the 100% truth today? If yes I ask him, if no, I ask a friend lol


 Signed "The Brat"


family in the van

Callaly
by Member on Mar. 4, 2014 at 4:16 PM

 It took awhile to get used to lol but now I just know that if I ask and don't like the answer... well I asked for it lol

Quoting Brattzilla:

LOL This is so me, also LOL !!!

Quoting Callaly:

 He is very honest, to the point where I ask myself.. are you in the emotional state to get the 100% truth today? If yes I ask him, if no, I ask a friend lol

 

withsecond
by on Mar. 4, 2014 at 4:22 PM
Yes he has. If I ask him to be honest, he will be honest. Even if I don't like it.
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