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When you are mad at dh/so

Posted by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:53 PM
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What do you do to let him know he messed up?

Are you just up front and tell him you are mad?

Do you give him the "silent treatment"?

Do you say snarky things? To give him hints......

personally im a little childish when I am mad....I do silly things like don't fold his laundry and leave it on the bed....or I refuse to cook dinner, without telling him....or i won't change the toilet roll when I see he left it finished....or I won't make the bed....

i rarely every tell him I am mad unless he says something outright offensive and then I will snap right there and then. That doesn't happen too often though!



by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 12:53 PM
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Pink.Sunshine.
by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:07 PM
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Oh trust me, he knows when I'm mad.

Krysden
by Platinum Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:17 PM
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This may sound weird but I don't think I've ever been truly mad at my husband.   If one of us "messes up" we talk about it and work out how to fix it. 

jellybeanjean
by Bronze Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:25 PM
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Lol!

Quoting Pink.Sunshine.:

Oh trust me, he knows when I'm mad.


sburger315
by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:27 PM
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I tell him right away. I don't beat around the bush and I don't give the silent treatment. I always start the conversation with "I feel..." when explaining why I'm mad at him. 

Proud-mama-05
by Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:27 PM
Exactly lol. Almost 11yrs together he's well aware when I am angry. Although it's rare that I get angry with him.

Quoting Pink.Sunshine.:

Oh trust me, he knows when I'm mad.

Pink.Sunshine.
by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:30 PM
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Anger is so normal. It's what we do with that anger that sometimes become the problem. We have great communication, but when I'm mad, I'm mad lol

Quoting Proud-mama-05: Exactly lol. Almost 11yrs together he's well aware when I am angry. Although it's rare that I get angry with him.
Quoting Pink.Sunshine.:

Oh trust me, he knows when I'm mad.


  


 

BonitaM
by Ruby Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:36 PM
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I snap right then and there and depending on how angry I am I'll do something childish.  A couple of weeks ago he spent a lot of money at the casino and didn't come home in time for dinner.  I had a nice juicy steak with potatoes waiting for him but since he didn't come home, our dog got to enjoy it! ;)

jellybeanjean
by Bronze Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:39 PM

I've tried this ....saying "I feel" and really making an effort to not make it sound like he's doing all wrong....but I have a hard time getting through to dh. It always ends up in a  "who's life is harder" competition. I've resorted to giving him signs about what pissed me off. It actually works for us. He's a shitty communicator.....and maybe I come off as a bitch? Lol

Quoting sburger315:

I tell him right away. I don't beat around the bush and I don't give the silent treatment. I always start the conversation with "I feel..." when explaining why I'm mad at him. 


jellybeanjean
by Bronze Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:40 PM

Loooooool 

this is something I would do 

Quoting BonitaM:

I snap right then and there and depending on how angry I am I'll do something childish.  A couple of weeks ago he spent a lot of money at the casino and didn't come home in time for dinner.  I had a nice juicy steak with potatoes waiting for him but since he didn't come home, our dog got to enjoy it! ;)


JC2223
by Bronze Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 1:45 PM

I have the type of personality that if I'm having an emotion...you're going to know it. I don't hide my emotions well at all! I've learned to identify my real emotions though so I don't portray them to others as something they aren't. Hurt usually is displayed as anger, disappointment is usually displayed as annoyance, etc. Now, if something DH did hurt me, I tell him my true emotion and then we talk the situation out. It's the same process for all emotions, and for both of us. Clear, effective communication is key in our marriage and we very rarely get mad, upset or angry at each other because we communicate about things effectively.

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