Before I met my husband I was deployed to Afghanistan. I met a lot of Italian male Soldiers who liked to flirt with the American females and I stayed in touch with some of them. One was the roommate of a guy I messed around with, and after we had come home, his roommate added me to Facebook. The roommate (Marco) contacted me and told me that he had been interested in me but hadn't told me because of his roommate. We used to talk regularly, daily actually, and I started having feelings for him even though he was in Italy and I was back in the States. When I told him this, he said that I shouldn't feel that way because it was impossible for us to be together so I broke contact with him. After that, I met my husband. I hadn't heard anything from Marco for a long time, about a year, and since he was in training for the special forces I figured he was in some place doing something crazy and I would probably not hear from him again. Out of nowhere, he e-mailed me recently. I told him I was married and we'd had a child, and nothing has been said that is inappropriate. He hasn't said anything to me that couldn't be said in front of my husband without giving offense and if my husband saw the e-mails he would have no reason to be upset. But it FEELS wrong. I guess I have answered my own question...do you ladies think that you have to cut ties with all guys you ever had a relationship with, physical or emotional, once you are with someone else??