If its something thats going to truly matter.. I let him know
If i am pre-menstrual and he at all the Oreo's, or he left the cap off the toothpaste.. Eh, i will suck it up, and move on.
Quoting Brattzilla: If its something thats going to truly matter.. I let him knowIf i am pre-menstrual and he at all the Oreo's, or he left the cap off the toothpaste.. Eh, i will suck it up, and move on.
I don't sweat the small stuff, I am very emotional and kind of crazy (especially right now) so I know that some of my issues I should just let go instead of sounding like all I do is nag and complain. lol
However, if he does something that hurts my feelings or really bothers me I most certainly talk about it. I think it's important to have good communication to make any relationship work.
Him, on the other hand, def bottles it up :/
I feel it depends, its not always a good idea to open up and talk about what's upsetting you to your s/o dh, cause your s/o and dh doesn't necessarily want to hear it all the time, cannot blame a man, it gets tiring to hear, i feel it's better to talk to a woman friend and or female relative, sister, mother etc. they can better understand and relate that's why. its okay once in awhile to open up to your s/o and or dh, just not all the time. remember men aren't women., and women aren't men we are so different from one another, which its the way it should be in my opinion, i wouldn't want it any other way!
I always tell my husband it is the only way to find a solution.
honestly i think neither is good. go vent to someone outside of the relationship. i know if i do anything it is never good.
I'm not the type to keep shit to myself so obviously I believe in being open.
I don't think there is an, "in general" answer to that. I think it is a case by case basis kind of thing.
It's not good to keep things bottled up so I'd say it's better to just spit it out. DH has a tendancy to keep things bottled up and then blow up 2 years later about something I thought we were well over and done with. I spit it out right away and as soon as it's resolved completely forget about it and move on.
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