How do you choose in your relationship on who should have their tubes tied or he should a vasectomy? After this baby I really wanted him to get it done since I have had multiple gyno surgeries and feel since I have Fallopian tube he could do this for our family. We are 16 years apart him being older and he talks about not having enough energy for our 3 kids. He has mentioned twice that it can't be reversed. I'm assuming he said it due to us ever getting a divorce his new woman wouldn't able to if they wanted together. I definitely don't want more after this one is born. So how do you figure it out?