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10 habits of happy couples...*Piog*

Posted by on Jun. 14, 2014 at 7:00 AM
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Dr. Mark Goulston is psychiatrist, international speaker, and best selling author of books such as Just Listen: Discover the Secret to getting Through to Absolutely Anyone, The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship: How to Fall in Love Again…and Stay ThereREAL INFLUENCE: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In, Get Out of Your Own Way, and Get Out of Your Own Way at Work. 

His post 10 Habits of Happy Couples offers valuable tips to will help you improve your relationship.

Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. They know that unless you maintain the garden of love, its beauty will wither and die.

#1. Go to bed at the same time.
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps. And when their skins touch it still causes each of them to tingle and unless one or both are completely exhausted to feel sexually excited.


#2. Cultivate common interests.
After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.


#3. Walk hand in hand or side by side.
Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.


#4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.
If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.


#5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.
If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.


#6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.
Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.


#7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.


#8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.
This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.


#9. Do a “weather” check during the day.
Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you


#10. Be proud to be seen with your partner.
Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.


http://www.lifebuzz.com/happy-couples/#!YSrIJ



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Krysden
by Platinum Member on Jun. 14, 2014 at 7:31 PM

There are some good ones there.   I especially like #5.  :)

lovemercygrace
by Member on Jun. 14, 2014 at 7:32 PM
Me too

Quoting Krysden:

There are some good ones there.   I especially like #5.  :)

DanaG70
by Member on Jun. 14, 2014 at 7:36 PM

We do everything except for #1. 

earthangel1967
by YVONNE on Jun. 14, 2014 at 11:04 PM

Yup! We both do all those things and lots more actually and we are certainly very very happy. : ) YAY. 

When I was miserably married to my ex for 16 yrs before I finally divorced him, we  didn't do a LOT of those things and as I mentioned, I  was miserable!!! Apparently he says he was happy being married to me and did NOT want a divorce at all.. but I didn't consider us a happy couple at all... certainly my half of us wasn't happy. 

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deadlights86
by Emily on Jun. 15, 2014 at 12:37 AM
We never go to bed together. Dh has horrible insomnia and I would rather fall asleep alone than have him keep me up with the TV.
LadyBast
by Brenda on Jun. 15, 2014 at 5:11 PM

Yes we do this.

TFS

Tiredmom53
by Member on Jun. 15, 2014 at 6:02 PM

We observe everyone of those rules and added to #8 we NEVER go to bed mad at each other we always kiss and makeup and say goodnight I love you

Raeann11
by Silver Member on Jun. 15, 2014 at 9:10 PM

There are a few things on there we can't do. Because he works nights and can't call him at work. Unless it's an emergency.

alexsmomaubrys2
by Silver Member on Jun. 15, 2014 at 9:13 PM

DH and I do all of that! No wonder we've been happily married for the last 11 years and going strong. =D

wingsfan1234
by on Jun. 15, 2014 at 9:13 PM
That's it's as well

Quoting Raeann11:

There are a few things on there we can't do. Because he works nights and can't call him at work. Unless it's an emergency.

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