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His Fantasies....?

Posted by on Jun. 18, 2014 at 12:56 AM
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How can I get my hubby to open up about what his fantasies are? I have asked and all he says in "i don't know" I have been open to watching porn (only done it a few times) and anal. I have shared what I like. He isn't all into lingerie. Not sure what else to do. Any Ideas?

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BellaAngel8707
by Member on Jun. 18, 2014 at 12:57 AM
Experiment.
rockinwife08
by on Jun. 18, 2014 at 12:59 AM

What kind of experimenting? 

steffielou_who
by Silver Member on Jun. 18, 2014 at 2:00 AM

DH and I talk dirty to each other while we are fooling around and we both let our fantasies out!

martini8787
by Member on Jun. 18, 2014 at 2:04 AM

This may sound stupid but it worked for me. I picked an old cartoon or comic book character from shows and comics he read and dressed up like them and bam so to speak.

rockinwife08
by on Jun. 18, 2014 at 2:14 AM
We talk dirty to role playing maybe anal was his one fantasy.. that's the only thing he's really mentioned in the past & we do it. He isn't a very sexual person. I do most of if not all the initiation. I might be a lot more open than him.
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by YVONNE on Jun. 18, 2014 at 5:27 AM

I was going to suggest role play but I see here you already do... if he doesn't even seem to have any fantasies come out into the open that way.. then you are probably right, he's probably  just not as sexual as you may be and maybe that was his only fantasy.. as long as you  keep communication open in  case something ever does come to his mind and he seems happy and  you are happy then I wouldn't worry about it.  If you want him to initiate more often have you let him know you would like for him to do so more often? 

Quoting rockinwife08: We talk dirty to role playing maybe anal was his one fantasy.. that's the only thing he's really mentioned in the past & we do it. He isn't a very sexual person. I do most of if not all the initiation. I might be a lot more open than him.


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ReadWriteLuv
by Casey on Jun. 18, 2014 at 7:03 AM

Maybe he just honestly doesn't have any. That is actually possible. 

LadyBast
by Brenda on Jun. 18, 2014 at 5:40 PM

Try whatever, he may not have been raised to speak about these things I was not so it is hard for me to answer those questions also!

BonitaM
by Platinum Member on Jun. 18, 2014 at 7:29 PM

Try new things with him and ask if he likes this or tell him an erotic story and ask him for his feedback and if he'd like to try that sometime.

whitedove26
by on Jun. 18, 2014 at 7:40 PM
Yeah, my husband won't open up about this either. I don't know what to tell ya. You can't experiment alone... Well I guess you could but I think that would be a different post.
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