I HAD no choice but to be that type of wife with my ex of 16 yrs... at least none that I could think of.. he had no self initiative, no motivation, procratinated so badly it was literally painful to everyone involved, had to be asked or begged or yelled at countless times to even start to lift a finger to help with anything and then more often than not only did half of it, if that and rarely finished anything he started... it was beyond frustrating I felt drained, overwhelmed, angry, resentful, etc almost constantly. I couldn't even stand myself when I was around him. But to be honest none of that domineering did much good, it didn't change him at all,, it just got me stuck in a rut I didn't even like MYSELF in. We were just not a good match or something.
With the man I am married to now and have been with 11 yrs (married for 9 in sept) it is the total opposite, well not exactly total opposite because he is not domineering to me either.. we feel like partners, like a team and I find it easy and enjoyable to be married to him.. I would not dream of being domineering to Todd because I look up to him, admire him and respect him so much and I trust him since he DOES have self iniatiive, is helpful, does things without even being asked or merely asked one time, he doesn't procrastinate at all ever, and is most motivated person I ever met.. hell I'm a bump on a log compared to his motivation! lol I'm very sweet and respectful and not at all bossy with him but he makes that easy. And I KNOW If I was with someone like my ex even though I know it's not healthy or conducive to resolution I would fall back into domineering again because I get impatient and frustrated and a man like my ex pushes every red button I have all at once constantly. lol
I discuss all major decisions And issues with my partner. I am only bossy when it comes to organization of the kids toys ;) just sit and talk with your spouse. I don't think one spouse should lead in everything. It should always be a good balance of give and take.
A loving wife
Tread lightly. I let him be the head of the household for three months. We got so far behind with everything that we ended up losing our three cars, our house, credit cards, $10,000 in cash and are now divorced.
Some men aren't cut out for it, which is why they choose strong women to be with.
I do not consider myself domineering. I'm just a shrew.
I'm a SAHM for the most part so I take care of DD and the household chores. DH goes to work and pays the bills. Other than that we pretty much do whatever we want whenever we want. We just really make a great team and encourage each others individuality.
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