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Do you ever feel defensive about the mess in your house?

Posted by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:03 AM
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Husband Who Used to Blame Messy House on His Wife Finally Sees the Light

by Adriana Velez

messy houseSo, did you hear about the man who blamed his wife for their messy house? Spoiler alert: He admits he was wrong. He used to look around his house and judge his stay-at-home wife until he became a stay-at-home dad. Then he learned: Kids are destroyers. Not only that, taking care of a home (including the people who live in it) is a collection of "a million full-time jobs." This includes "housekeeper, disciplinarian, teacher, nurse ..." Oh blah blah blah, you know the list. We've all lived it. Congratulations, stay-at-home-dad, for observing the obvious!

As with everything else in life, you have to prioritize. Some things are more important than cleaning your house. Actually, a lot of things are more important than cleaning. And anyway, aren't we all kind of suspicious of super-clean homes?

You know the ones I'm talking about: Everything in its place, not a speck of dust anywhere. The adults who live there usually have stiff, frozen smiles, and their children tiptoe and seem afraid of their own shadows.

Actually, I was raised in a super clean, super tidy house. And it requires a conscious act of will not to have an equally clean home. I only have one child, but I also have a full-time job and only so many hours in a day. How do I want to spend what little spare time I have? Dusting? Really?!?

Don't get me wrong. I clean just enough so my home doesn't give me the creepy-crawlies. Having a reasonably tidy, well-organized house makes me feel more relaxed. But that's just me -- no one else seems to care. Seriously, my son has told me he prefers a slightly messy environment. As for husbands, well, if they don't like the mess they can pick up, too.

The thing about housekeeping is, your rug will never hug you back for vacuuming it. Your toilet isn't going to thank you for making it sparkle. The kitchen will not smile at you for wiping away those crumbs. Cleaning is a thankless job no one notices unless you neglect it. So screw it.

Do you feel judged for your messy house? Come on over to the circle of Moms With Better Things to Do. We're a merry bunch. And we don't judge.

Do you ever feel defensive about the mess in your house? Or -- you're not one of those judgy moms with a super clean house, are you?

 

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by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:03 AM
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Fayanne
by Platinum Member on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:08 AM

 oh I am sure I am judged, but people who know me know I am doing it all alone around here, and understand.

BonitaM
by Ruby Member on Jul. 30, 2014 at 9:52 AM

Sometimes I do get defensive and the rest of the time I just don't care. I've got way too many hobbies to worry if everything's in place.

MixedCooke
by Silver Member on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:15 AM
My Mom always has something to say, but she lives by herself and I have 2 kids and a dog so it's like uh yeah, easy to keep a house clean if its just you!!
Cafe Steph
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:16 AM
Hopefully most understand and not judge regardless. We all do our best and have our messy moments, right?

Quoting Fayanne:

 oh I am sure I am judged, but people who know me know I am doing it all alone around here, and understand.

Cafe Steph
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:17 AM
I got defensive early in my marriage, but I was pregnant then, too, lol, so I blame hormones. ;) Does you SO ever say anything?

Quoting BonitaM:

Sometimes I do get defensive and the rest of the time I just don't care. I've got way too many hobbies to worry if everything's in place.

furbabymum
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:30 AM

 I could care less. I drive my mother crazy.

waytomanykids10
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:32 AM
No because my house isn't a mess. Messy drives me crazy and I am constantly cleaning and having the kids clean up their mess.
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rockinmomto2
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:47 AM

I don't. I mean, I don't usually let people in my house if I don't know them well, and people who know me well know that I'm a messy person. *shrug* I do my best to keep it clean, but with 3 destroyers and a man who works way too hard, it's tough to get to everything.

UCFknight
by Brenda on Jul. 30, 2014 at 10:48 AM

I am a little OCD when it comes to my home. The kids have certain places for their toys, they make their beds in the morning, clothes are always in the hamper, not spread on the couch, bed, or floor, and I dust and vacuum daily, along with my assigned cleaning days for rooms. When they were babies, their toys were always put away. My mom always tells me to relax, but she always applauded me as a kid for how picture perfect my side of the bedroom was compared to my sister, lol. 

Bresmom13
by on Jul. 30, 2014 at 11:14 AM

 Dh and I usually clean before anyone comes (if we know they are) otherwise No unless its the spare bathroom. We usually keep things tidy, besides baby toys everywhere and kids drinking cups.

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