I've been sharing on here for a while now about my troubled marriage.
Basically earlier this summer my husband said he didn't see our marriage working out, I didn't make him happy, and he was looking at separating. We have two kids, whom he adores so that makes this difficult plus I was the one that really wanted to make this work and fix things.
Well, I soon learned that he was having an emotional affair with a female he met earlier this year. They'd exchanged emails that later turned to phone calls. He agreed to stop talking to her after I told him I'd move out with the kids. I feel like he didn't mean it though. I feel like he just said it because he doesn't want to lose the kids.
They did contact each other again but he said it was to let her know he can't talk to her anymore.
Well, as if my failing marriage wasn't enough heartache, we just found out that my husband was diagnosed with cancer. I don't know how to deal with this, I love him of course and don't wish ill on him but at the same time I'm very angry and disappointed in his actions and him quitting on our marriage.
I just don't know what to do. Part of me wants to stand by him and support him all the way as he goes through this trial in life. But then part of me feels like he wanted out anyway and didn't want me part of his life so I should let it be.
Plus on top of this, I recently discovered that he's made phone calls through a calling card that seems suspicius. My gut feeling is teling me someting is up, I feel ike he's uisng a calling card so that I can't see the actual number he's contacting. But the length of the conversations and the frequency is sending me a red flag. Plus he's never used a calling card before through his cell phone!
What makes this more complicated is that we are getting along better than ever now, funny how that works. We've been sharing affection, he says he loves me, still kisses me, and acts okay around me. But I can't help but feel like he's holding on to a part of me while hiding something at the same time.
Am I missing a clear signal here that I don't see? Maybe I don't want to admit the truth. I still want to hold onto the idea that we can reconnect and be in love again. But maybe I'm holding onto false hope??
What would you ladies do in this situation? Would you stand by him no matter what, just like the vows say- in sickness or in health. Or would you stand back?