How to live with a spouse that doesn't know how to love
I am at my wits end.... For eight years I have been dealing with a husband that has zero idea on what love really is. I thought that he was going to at least love his own kids... but he doesn't even really do that. He never says he loves... which really I am fine with. But the bigger thing is that he doesn't show he loves either. He stopped even trying with his daughter in another state because she threw and fit and wouldn't talk to him... so he just gave up on her. Now with his son who is six... he only wants to scold him all the time and be the tough parent because he says that I am too "soft". The ONLY reason that I am "soft" is because I feel that I need to show him love to cover for both his mom and DAD. Dad NEVER hugs, kisses or shows any kind of affection. Really he doesn't ever interact with him at all. He is a mommy's boy because I try everything to make up for that.
I can live with it... this is the man that chose... even thought the other night he told me that if I ever got fat he would have no problems leaving me. I called him on that and said that if he feels that way that I KNOW he doesn't love me. The answer he gave was "I was just kidding...I'm stuck now". After I pressed him further he said... "Since your are hot right now all of your quirks and just cute... but as soon as you are fat they will just be annoying."
Dealing with this is my problem that I got myself into. BUT my son should not have to grow up with a father who holds his "love" like that.
I know the answer to my own question and that is that there really is no answer. But here it is anyway just in case anyone has an idea... what do I do?