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Do you think married/committed sex is better?

Posted by on Jan. 6, 2015 at 10:53 AM
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7 Reasons Married Sex Is Better

Marriage and married sex both get bum raps a lot of the time. Movies and sitcoms always feature the beaten-down married man who isn't getting enough nookie hating his life. Meanwhile, his shrew of a wife is usually busy shopping or doing something other than thinking about the man she is tired of having sex with.

After years of marriage, it's true. You can take one another for granted and that sheen is worn off a bit. A married couple is probably not going to have sex like they did when they were 25 and everything was new and exciting.

Back then it may have been anything goes -- late to dinner because you were too busy making out, embarrassing your friends with your constant PDA. Now, you may be more accustomed to one another's bodies and not as ignited by them. But married sex/long-term commitment sex is still extremely hot. Here are 7 reasons why married sex is the best sex:

  • Worry-free: OK, yes, there is the occasional horror story from someone who knows someone whose husband gave them AIDS when she thought they were monogamous. But generally speaking, many women CAN trust their spouses and so they CAN ditch the condoms and really enjoy sex without the concerns of an STD.
  • Knowing each other's bods: By the time you get married, you usually have a pretty good sense of where the other person likes to be touched, what they hate, and what they dig. That information is what makes sex truly unique and awesome.
  • Comfort: When something embarrassing happens, you can laugh with your spouse, ask for things you may have been afraid to ask for before, and generally feel comfortable with a variety of things you may not have before.
  • Different styles: Before you know someone well, sometimes sex can be a bit rigid (pun intended). Sure, it can be passionate and hot, but it's rarely loving and emotional, silly and playful, or even quick and dirty. There are many different ways to have sex and an active married couple usually ends up exploring them all.
  • Intimacy: Having sex with someone for years and years leads to a comfort zone unlike any other. That closeness and comfort are what make intimacy. Intimacy, of course, is the very best part of married sex.
  • Creativity: Stamping out boredom means trying new things. Kids add another dimension to this once they're in the picture. Gone is the nightly window for sex, so now you do it in the day, during naptime on the couch, or on the boat when your parents are watching the kids or in the car when you have a sitter. It's hot to be creative together.
  • Experimenting: When you're together for a long time, the best case scenario is you try new things. You work up the courage (together) to go into that porn shop or do that one thing you always wanted to try but were afraid to ask for.

Why do you think married/committed sex is better?

by on Jan. 6, 2015 at 10:53 AM
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by Member on Jan. 6, 2015 at 11:35 AM

bump                      doh  not death sentance 

by Ruby Member on Jan. 6, 2015 at 12:09 PM
I do. When it comes to sex with random strangers I am more excited by the anticipation but the sex itself is never as good as when I'm with DH. I'm truly head over heels with him and comfortable enough to let go of any inhibitions. I enjoy reliving the experience in my head afterwards with both married and casual sex. To be clear here I'm not cheating on my husband.
by Member on Jan. 6, 2015 at 12:46 PM
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I wouldn't know, I've only had committed sex.

by on Jan. 6, 2015 at 12:55 PM
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 Married sex is better when the couple are deeply in love with each other

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by on Jan. 6, 2015 at 1:20 PM
I think married/commited sex is definitely the best. With my ex's it was just sex, nothing spectacular about it. With my husband it's amazing. I feel so comfortable with him and it's completely okay for us to talk about and live out our fantasies. I was never comfortable enough to tell my ex's what I really enjoy.
by Bronze Member on Jan. 6, 2015 at 1:22 PM
Yeah it's better. I cum every time cause he knows how to do it right.
by Brenda on Jan. 6, 2015 at 1:27 PM

I believe so. when you are comfortable with someone, you let go of your inhibitions and can enjoy the moment more and try new things without fear of rejection.

by Bronze Member on Jan. 6, 2015 at 2:14 PM

Hard to say because I have never had married sex and un-married sex with the same person.  When I was a teen, I slept around a bit.  It was hormones and lust and jumping each other's bones.  It was exciting and thrilling in that way.

Once I met my husband, we decided to wait until we were married.  So I went for four years without sex at all.  Then we got married and we started having sex.  It was awkward (physically awkward), quick, fumbling and honestly not good from a physical standpoint.  When I was a teen I was with experienced guys who at least knew how to make it feel good physically.  My DH did not have that experience so it was not good physically.  Honestly, with my DH, it was years before he even figured out how to give me an orgasm.  Imagine several years of marital sex without one single orgasm.  Frustrating.

But I was patient with him, we learned how to talk to each other about it, and he discovered how to give me an O with his fingers.  Then a couple years after that he decided to try going down on me and now he gives me an O with his tongue.  It's all much better now than it was early in our marriage.

But to compare sex now with my DH to sex with those other guys when I was a teen, it's like comparing apples and oranges.  I have that strong emotional connection with DH, that comfort level that I never had with anyone else.  But I don't have the raging hormones and the lust that made sex back then feel so damn good.  Just depends how you look at it I guess.

by Member on Jan. 6, 2015 at 2:40 PM

yes I do. 

by Trica on Jan. 6, 2015 at 2:50 PM

 Well since I've been married for some time now,I'll agree very much so.TTCin love

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