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Anyone marry a narcissist ?

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How long have you been married? What does he do that causes you to believe he might be a narcissist? Are you planning on leaving?
by on Nov. 30, 2017 at 3:20 AM
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mewebb82
by Bronze Member on Dec. 1, 2017 at 9:05 PM
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I did but we divorced after 2 years. I've been happily married to a man who is definitely not a narcissist for 11 years now.
Fayanne
by Platinum Member on Dec. 2, 2017 at 6:34 AM

well.. I guess I misspoke.. I thought there was a sticky there, we've talked about it so much. Do a search in the group with the word "narcissistic' and some info, in posts, will pop up. If you post a request there,  you'll get some good responses.

Quoting Mama2myBaBiEs: Ugh, are they all lazy man children!!😂 I’ll do that! Thank you!!
Quoting Fayanne:

divorced after 27 years

nothing was every his fault

I never once, ever heard a sincere apology from him. I remember once, the sink in the girl's bathroom was really draining slowly, and I asked him to work on it. That was probably 20 years ago, and I can remember, to this day, him looking at me and saying "What's in it for me?"

he acted like a grown man-child. Go to the Divorced and Starting Over group.. there's a sticky there for Narcissistic personalities.


Sassym0m24
by Bronze Member on Dec. 2, 2017 at 7:39 PM
My mother's married to one she believes, for the last 5 years or so, together for a decade.

The thing is a Narcassist can be helped to see a more complete picture and change their perspective enough to at least recognize where the narcassistic behavior is and just make a choice, every day, to act differently then what is natural to them.

He recognizes where his thought patterns and behavior is different because mom helped him do so and he chooses to be a different version of himself daily, for her.

She wouldn't revel what traits made her think this but did do extensive reading, talking to psychiatrists, etc.



lovinmyfam16
by New Member on Dec. 4, 2017 at 8:53 AM
I think some of you have just married assholes.

Look, everyone...I mean everyone has at least one characteristic of a Narcissist however; to be diagnosed as one you have to hit a certain criteria. They have to meet five or more characteristics to even be considered. This personality disorder is actually rare to have. I think many people overuse this personality disorder because they have to have a label for bad behavior.

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder-symptoms/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/understanding-narcissism/201708/the-truth-about-narcissistic-personality-disorder%3famp
M4LG5
by Silver Member on Dec. 5, 2017 at 12:55 AM
I married an asshole with narcissistic tendencies. How about that? Haha

I'm now divorced


Quoting lovinmyfam16: I think some of you have just married assholes.

Look, everyone...I mean everyone has at least one characteristic of a Narcissist however; to be diagnosed as one you have to hit a certain criteria. They have to meet five or more characteristics to even be considered. This personality disorder is actually rare to have. I think many people overuse this personality disorder because they have to have a label for bad behavior.

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder-symptoms/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/understanding-narcissism/201708/the-truth-about-narcissistic-personality-disorder%3famp
FoxTroll
by on Dec. 5, 2017 at 1:01 AM

I didn't marry one, but my mother is one. 

lovinmyfam16
by New Member on Dec. 5, 2017 at 2:34 PM
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LOL!!

Glad you got outta there!!

Quoting M4LG5: I married an asshole with narcissistic tendencies. How about that? Haha

I'm now divorced


Quoting lovinmyfam16: I think some of you have just married assholes.

Look, everyone...I mean everyone has at least one characteristic of a Narcissist however; to be diagnosed as one you have to hit a certain criteria. They have to meet five or more characteristics to even be considered. This personality disorder is actually rare to have. I think many people overuse this personality disorder because they have to have a label for bad behavior.

https://psychcentral.com/disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder-symptoms/

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/understanding-narcissism/201708/the-truth-about-narcissistic-personality-disorder%3famp
iamcafemom83
by Member on Dec. 5, 2017 at 2:36 PM
One of my sisters did. She divorced about 3 years ago and he is a horrible co parent. Its been hard on her but at least they arent liuving together anymore. He remarried right away😳
Fayanne
by Platinum Member on Dec. 5, 2017 at 5:04 PM

narcissism falls along a continuum, for sure. Everyone has narcissistic tendencies, however no one here is demanding a DSM-5 diagnosis from anyone who wants to call their self absorbed, controlling, self-serving, assholetastic gaslighting SO a "narcissist"


Quoting lovinmyfam16: I think some of you have just married assholes. Look, everyone...I mean everyone has at least one characteristic of a Narcissist however; to be diagnosed as one you have to hit a certain criteria. They have to meet five or more characteristics to even be considered. This personality disorder is actually rare to have. I think many people overuse this personality disorder because they have to have a label for bad behavior. https://psychcentral.com/disorders/narcissistic-personality-disorder-symptoms/ https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/blog/understanding-narcissism/201708/the-truth-about-narcissistic-personality-disorder%3famp


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