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SO MAD AT HUBBY for over spending

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I am so mad right now he went to hang out with his brother tonight so he spent 50 dollars... Why am I so mad we just sat down for HOURS last night to come up with a budget that we agreed on and have been really deicated to this we promised each other we wouldn't spend money and yet he spends 50 dollars So bummed. 

by on May. 3, 2012 at 12:19 AM
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nicoal4
by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:40 AM


Quoting matreshka:

I could write a post like this myself.  I just checked our bank account and DH has been ordering about 2 records every day online.  I understand he wants to replace his collection that was "lost" by his dad but it impacts everyone else here in the house too. 

It makes me angry because when I want something he'll start talking about the budget.

That sucks because he does the SAME THING and that is why I am SO mad I went to get everything yesterday unloading 5 kids from store to store and thought well sense he is at his brother I will make something easy Spaghetti so I got the stuff went up tp pay for it and told the cashier never mind I don't want the spag stuff because it wasn't in our budget we talked about I just went home and cooked something harder. IF I even buy a candy bar he would question it before this. I told him that this morning because he is still mad that I am upset and said we need to take what you spent out of the camping fund he wants to take it out of our Motorcycle fund that goes toward paying off our motorcycle off in 3 months and we owe 6,000 . 

nicoal4
by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:42 AM


Quoting MayraB123:

You need to sit down and talk to him about how you feel and whats not right because if you dont he will do it over and over again.

Oh I did last night and this morning he woke up still mad because I was bothered and said that what he spent needs to come out of our camping fund thats the only place we can take it from. 

MayraB123
by on May. 3, 2012 at 9:49 AM
I hate when there like that that they do something and your mad and you stay mad and they ask whats wrong? dont you lol. well just make sure he understands what he did was wrong but what did he spent it on?
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nicoal4
by on May. 3, 2012 at 10:06 AM


Quoting MayraB123:

I hate when there like that that they do something and your mad and you stay mad and they ask whats wrong? dont you lol. well just make sure he understands what he did was wrong but what did he spent it on?

LOL well 20 of it is okay because he gave it to a homeless girl with a baby WHICH he never does so now that I have that info I am proud. BUT I had told him to get something to eat because he wasn't coming home and get a monster which could have equaled 5-7 dollars because burger king is right there. BUT he went and paid for Chinese for him and his brother who has his own money and it was 30 dollars . 

godsgirl26
by Member on May. 3, 2012 at 10:07 AM


Quoting a_and_j_momma:

I am sorry




extremelibrary
by on May. 3, 2012 at 12:02 PM

Sounds like a double standard to me.

Quoting matreshka:

I could write a post like this myself.  I just checked our bank account and DH has been ordering about 2 records every day online.  I understand he wants to replace his collection that was "lost" by his dad but it impacts everyone else here in the house too. 

It makes me angry because when I want something he'll start talking about the budget.


ExquisiteMomof2
by on May. 3, 2012 at 12:03 PM
When hubs wants to do that and go out with his buddies we withdrawl the budget amount and he leaves his debit card home with me. Sad but works.
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starbeck96
by on May. 3, 2012 at 12:26 PM

Sorry that happened.

Thankfully me and DH are pretty much on the same page.  We don't really have a set bugdet though.  His income is never the same because he is self employed.  I am really thinking about doing a percentage budget instead.

That way if he makes 300.00 one week and 600.00 the next, we can use a standard budget to start saving.  I don't know if that makes sense to you or not...lol.  But, it is the only way that I can really budget..lol.

I think I may sit down and work on that a little later and then me and him take the time to look at it together this weekend.  That way he can make any changes that we need to and agree upon.

nicoal4
by on May. 3, 2012 at 12:31 PM


Quoting starbeck96:

Sorry that happened.

Thankfully me and DH are pretty much on the same page.  We don't really have a set bugdet though.  His income is never the same because he is self employed.  I am really thinking about doing a percentage budget instead.

That way if he makes 300.00 one week and 600.00 the next, we can use a standard budget to start saving.  I don't know if that makes sense to you or not...lol.  But, it is the only way that I can really budget..lol.

I think I may sit down and work on that a little later and then me and him take the time to look at it together this weekend.  That way he can make any changes that we need to and agree upon.

That is why I am so bothered we have NOT been on the same page I was the over spender on day to day stuff he would spend on big stuff from time to time BUT I really got excited because I of all people was dedicated to this and THOUGHT we were on the same page and we worked on it really hard for him to go hang out and just not put much thought in too it. 

nmaxwell816
by on May. 3, 2012 at 12:32 PM

 I'm sorry to hear that

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