For those that dont know, DH has caused a bit of drama and long story short, had a court date yesterday. He got out of court at 11 am and said everything looked good, that a continuation was filed for a trial date in September. Great, then we at least have some more time to financially prepare (according to what he told me). Then yesterday afternoon he got up and went outside to make a phone call and came back in and told me we had to go pay the lawyer $2600 right NOW to keep the ball rolling. DH is pretty dramatic and probably didnt even think to ask if there could be installments paid or anything, in his black and white mind it was pay now or go to jail.
I was livid. On one hand, yes, we were able to go and cut a check and be done with it, but on the other, he had told me his parents had helped with the lawyer fees (to the tune of five grand), so I just dont understand at all why it couldnt have just been invoiced if they had indeed already covered so much money. I'm pretty convinced dh just didnt even ever talk to them about it (hence the going outside to have the conversation).
I guess I am just so frustrated because it feels like every time we ever get ahead, we get knocked back down again.
I hate the drama and the irresponsibility that even caused this mess in the first place. I'm trying so hard to stay compassionate and to not be a total bi*** about all this- whats done is done and I dont want more strain on the relationship. But I'd be lying if I didnt say that the Resentment Meter is pretty high this morning while I sit and go through all our finances again. The only reason we had that money was the tax refund, and I had already gone through our plans for spring and had things figured out where we actually looked in pretty good shape on paper! Clothes for the kiddos (ds has holes in all his jeans, the little ones grow fast), the dog is due for her annual shots, excise taxes and registrations and all the other things that come up through spring that I usually have taken care of thanks to that money.Savings, paying off a good chunk of debt, etc. In the back of my mind the possibility of needing to come up with some money to go towards the stuff with DH was there of course, but the sudden news of having to do it right then just totally threw me off.
So, back to square one. I should know by now not to feel secure about things, stuff just always comes up. And wouldnt you know, on the way home from dropping the checks off, my brakes started squeaking really loud. Typical!
Sorry this is so long, I think I just needed to vent. :/