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Need help explaining cancer to 2 kids with ASD

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 9:41 PM
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Hi all, I have 2 kids, both ASD and very close to there grandma. 1 is 7 and 1 is 5. We just found out she has stage 3 lung cancer. She has been thru 1 round of chemo and 2nd round tomorrow. Her hair is already starting to come out and we will be going for a wig fitting soon. My question is how to talk to them about this. They are so close to her.
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ROGUEM
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 10:34 PM

 Oh I am so so sorry.  My mom lived with us for 3 years while she battled cancer.  I have 3 boys on the spectrum but only my oldest was really old enough to understand what was going on.  She passed away when he was 9.  I explained to him about cancer when he was 7 like your child.  I kept it simple and just said that cancer was a disease that some people get and that Nana was going to be getting medicince to help her get rid of the cancer. The medicince is called radiation and chemo.  The chemo can make Nana feel bad or tired because it takes alot of energy to fight the cancer.  It will make Nana's hair fall out but she will get beautiful new hair called wigs.  She will need extra hugs and kisses while she is kicking cancer's butt so make sure you give her as many as you can.  He would go up to her and say here is a hug to help make the cancer go away.  She loved this and would say "oh, I feel better already" . 

I will add you to my prayers.  One of the greatest things about kids with ASD is that they deal in facts and don't usually overanalyze the "what ifs". I love this about my son. I wish I could not spin senarios out in my head about what might happen. 

 I explained cancer in a way that he understood it and he was really wonderful and caring to her.

amonkeymom
by Amy on Feb. 13, 2012 at 3:02 PM

This is a great way to explain it.

I'm sorry that your kids' grandma is sick.  :(

Quoting ROGUEM:

 Oh I am so so sorry.  My mom lived with us for 3 years while she battled cancer.  I have 3 boys on the spectrum but only my oldest was really old enough to understand what was going on.  She passed away when he was 9.  I explained to him about cancer when he was 7 like your child.  I kept it simple and just said that cancer was a disease that some people get and that Nana was going to be getting medicince to help her get rid of the cancer. The medicince is called radiation and chemo.  The chemo can make Nana feel bad or tired because it takes alot of energy to fight the cancer.  It will make Nana's hair fall out but she will get beautiful new hair called wigs.  She will need extra hugs and kisses while she is kicking cancer's butt so make sure you give her as many as you can.  He would go up to her and say here is a hug to help make the cancer go away.  She loved this and would say "oh, I feel better already" . 

I will add you to my prayers.  One of the greatest things about kids with ASD is that they deal in facts and don't usually overanalyze the "what ifs". I love this about my son. I wish I could not spin senarios out in my head about what might happen. 

 I explained cancer in a way that he understood it and he was really wonderful and caring to her.


cythina208
by on Feb. 14, 2012 at 3:10 PM
I talk to my child specialist or whoever diagnosis my child because my mom got really sick. My prayers are with you and family get us posted.
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by on Feb. 14, 2012 at 7:07 PM
Thank you some great advice. We are going for a wig fitting this weekend so I will update on how it goes. My oldest already knows something, that special connection she has with grandma...
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