How do you explain to people about outings??
I'm ran into an issue that I never really thought would happen, and I need some advice... But to understand completely, its going to need a little "lead up" I guess.
I am a single mom and both of my kids are on the spectrum. They are aged 7 and 4. Their dad now lives in another country (on another continent) and don't see the girls very much. He does have an older son that lives here though, the girls' half-brother. Their brother is 20 I think.. he hasn't been around much either and I only really got to see him in his "unruly teen years".
Their brother has apparently decided that he's missing out on time with the girls and has come to see them this Christmas and messages me once every few months to ask how they are.
Today though, the message asked "Is there a day that I can take the girls out to a movie".
My heart froze. I actually stopped breathing for a second.
There is nothing more that I would love than for them to spend time together and get to know eachother, but I know that he doesn't understand they he just can't take them out to a movie. I can't even take them out to a movie! Winnie has been to a movie theater once, during a "sensory friendly showing" and she loved it. Maggie has never been to a movie and it would be overwhelming for her. A regular movie would likely be very overwhelming for Winnie. That's on their own! I don't even take them to the grocery store together when I'm by myself...
So I guess what I'm looking for is suggestions and advice on how to not make him back away from spending time with them... but to get him to understand that he can't take them by himself.. and its not that I don't trust him its about the safety of the girls because of their safety and sensory issues when out and about.
I'm really scared that he will back out of spending time with them because he didn't get to the thing he wanted - his dad was the same way and never understood that it wasn't because I didn't want him to see them, but that the girls couldn't handle a large outing that he had planned for them.
Help?! Suggestions?! Am I crazy?!