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What to say to parents of children with autism - article

Posted by on Apr. 7, 2012 at 2:06 PM
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http://communities.washingtontimes.com/neighborhood/autism-unexpected/2011/jul/13/what-say-parents-children-autism/

Great article! Sorry I can't make it clicky, I'm mobile.
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thatgirl70
by on Apr. 7, 2012 at 3:04 PM

I am going to link that in every post where I see someone say "autism is over-diagnosed." Ooh that irritates me!

greenmommo
by on Apr. 7, 2012 at 3:23 PM
That is perfect. I think that is the best, most helpful article on autism awareness from a mother's standpoint I've ever read. I will post this everywhere I can. Thank you so much for finding it.
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MissTacoBell
by Bronze Member on Apr. 7, 2012 at 3:40 PM
Excellent article! Thanks for sharing!
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atherianos
by on Apr. 7, 2012 at 3:47 PM
Wow great article, really got me thinking
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greenmommo
by on Apr. 7, 2012 at 7:19 PM
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krissina
by on May. 27, 2012 at 7:53 PM
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My mother-in-law told me that my sons autism diagnosis was just an excuse by the doctors and that it was overrated, she believes it doesn't even exist and people need to learn how to raise their children (lots of family tension now), and his behavior is all my fault because I dont spend enough time with him.  Now she has my sons dad falling into the same thing, he's started to refuse even going to the therapy appts bc "there's nothing wrong, the doctors just look for money"  Our case worker told me that it's common for a parent or sometimes both to fall into doubt, but he really needs to get his head out of his butt and come watch our son at the therapy sessions so he can be involved and get out of denial.  My sons dad doesn't think it's my fault, he thinks that he's just a little behind everyone else his age.  However, today my sons dad tried playing with him which sent our son into one of his head banging tantrums because he touched one of his toys that he had stacked, I think it might have put a dent in his dads thick skull.

kajira
by Emma on May. 27, 2012 at 8:06 PM

my mother in law is like this and blames me too - saying I ignore our son even though 90% of my spare time is spend focusing all my energy on him and helping him and trying to teach him how to talk and play, and even use a fork (and he's 8!)

lets just say I don't talk to my mom in law anymore.   


And, my husband didn't really have any concept of what I went through with our son until he changed jobs and actually got to be around for long periods of time and got to see what he was really like. he had a clue - but he didn't understand exactly how bad he really was.

Quoting krissina:

My mother-in-law told me that my sons autism diagnosis was just an excuse by the doctors and that it was overrated, she believes it doesn't even exist and people need to learn how to raise their children (lots of family tension now), and his behavior is all my fault because I dont spend enough time with him.  Now she has my sons dad falling into the same thing, he's started to refuse even going to the therapy appts bc "there's nothing wrong, the doctors just look for money"  Our case worker told me that it's common for a parent or sometimes both to fall into doubt, but he really needs to get his head out of his butt and come watch our son at the therapy sessions so he can be involved and get out of denial.  My sons dad doesn't think it's my fault, he thinks that he's just a little behind everyone else his age.  However, today my sons dad tried playing with him which sent our son into one of his head banging tantrums because he touched one of his toys that he had stacked, I think it might have put a dent in his dads thick skull.


krissina
by on May. 27, 2012 at 8:27 PM

That's kind of how it is with my sons dad.  He works long nights, sleep what he can during the day, and our son has become kind of a one parent person, will not even try to relate to anyone outside of me and his sister. (my son will only be 2 in August)  However, my sons father and I split the beginning of last year, shortly after the split our son started having seizures, around 6 months.  Couldn't pin point why, but the Toledo neurologists began noticing slight signs, however he wasn't concerned.  Not long after that his pediatrician began documenting red flags, she had a specialist come in at 9months and she also noticed red flags, but due to his age, decided to wait awhile.  Well then we moved across the country and his pediatrician and neurologist here noticed more significant red flags, this is without EVER consulting or seeing previous documents from the doctors before, no power of opinion there.  So your going to tell me that 5 different doctors are wrong?  Plus our early intervention program is free...So no embezzeling money there.  

I can understand where his dad is coming from though.  Doesn't want anything to be wrong.  I can say I would've been content with a negative diagnosis, but then I'd still be wondering why my son does the things he does.  I was more relieved when we got the results, bc then we had more direction.

I wouldn't talk to my mother-in-law either if I could help it.  Very limited communication, only if she's home when we stop by for the kids to play with their cousins.

Hottubgodess
by Jackie on May. 27, 2012 at 8:51 PM
I'm astay at home mom. Is it my fault because I spend too much time with him???? Lol

Quoting krissina:

My mother-in-law told me that my sons autism diagnosis was just an excuse by the doctors and that it was overrated, she believes it doesn't even exist and people need to learn how to raise their children (lots of family tension now), and his behavior is all my fault because I dont spend enough time with him.  Now she has my sons dad falling into the same thing, he's started to refuse even going to the therapy appts bc "there's nothing wrong, the doctors just look for money"  Our case worker told me that it's common for a parent or sometimes both to fall into doubt, but he really needs to get his head out of his butt and come watch our son at the therapy sessions so he can be involved and get out of denial.  My sons dad doesn't think it's my fault, he thinks that he's just a little behind everyone else his age.  However, today my sons dad tried playing with him which sent our son into one of his head banging tantrums because he touched one of his toys that he had stacked, I think it might have put a dent in his dads thick skull.

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