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Autism - Support Across the Spectrum Autism - Support Across the Spectrum

How can this be???

Posted by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 10:10 PM
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For 6 weeks me and my two boys were staying with my grandma 8 hours away. The whole time we were there my older ds was displaying many autism traits that he has shown before at one point or another. Just never all at once or this bad. He was rocking, touching himself constantly, having daily meltdowns, not eating, constantly jumping, running from room to room, messing with light switches, constantly touching and hanging on his infant brother and a few other things. My husband was not with us and I know he missed him, but as soon as my hubby was reunited with us all of the behaviors disappeared. How is it possible that he can be THAT affected by being separated from his dad? How can a child basically go from autisic (or something similar) to a typical 3 yo? It makes me terrified to ever be separated from my hubby again :-/
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haymanisourson
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 10:24 PM
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ROGUEM
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 10:26 PM
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 Children on the spectrum need routine.  In a structured environment they can behave somewhat if not completely normally.  Change can cause anxiety and distress and the behaviors increase.  Your husband is probably a grounding tool for your son.  My son needs to hold an object in his hand and he is grounded.  Other children stim or rock or play with an object.  Your son would benefit from behavioral therapy that is directed towards helping him learn to ground himself.  He will have to go to school soon and be away from Daddy so it would be great for him to learn it now rather than later.

 

haymanisourson
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 10:33 PM
He does fine when he's away from him during the day. I think as long as he knows he will see him that day. We will usually tell him my husband is at work even if he's not, because he understands that. I've thought he could benefit from therapy, especially for his meltdowns. But its been hard to "prove" any of his behaviors because he doesn't do it all the time.

Quoting ROGUEM:

 Children on the spectrum need routine.  In a structured environment they can behave somewhat if not completely normally.  Change can cause anxiety and distress and the behaviors increase.  Your husband is probably a grounding tool for your son.  My son needs to hold an object in his hand and he is grounded.  Other children stim or rock or play with an object.  Your son would benefit from behavioral therapy that is directed towards helping him learn to ground himself.  He will have to go to school soon and be away from Daddy so it would be great for him to learn it now rather than later.


 

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ROGUEM
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 10:40 PM

 I have 3 boys on the spectrum.  When I am trying to show a specialist a behavior I sometimes video tape it if I think it will be hard to explain or they may not see during an appointment.  It has really helped me trying to explain a behaviors intensity also.

Quoting haymanisourson:

He does fine when he's away from him during the day. I think as long as he knows he will see him that day. We will usually tell him my husband is at work even if he's not, because he understands that. I've thought he could benefit from therapy, especially for his meltdowns. But its been hard to "prove" any of his behaviors because he doesn't do it all the time.

Quoting ROGUEM:

 Children on the spectrum need routine.  In a structured environment they can behave somewhat if not completely normally.  Change can cause anxiety and distress and the behaviors increase.  Your husband is probably a grounding tool for your son.  My son needs to hold an object in his hand and he is grounded.  Other children stim or rock or play with an object.  Your son would benefit from behavioral therapy that is directed towards helping him learn to ground himself.  He will have to go to school soon and be away from Daddy so it would be great for him to learn it now rather than later.


 

 

JuliaWoods99
by on Apr. 13, 2012 at 10:42 PM
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haymanisourson
by on Apr. 14, 2012 at 8:02 AM
That's a good idea, thanks!

Quoting ROGUEM:

 I have 3 boys on the spectrum.  When I am trying to show a specialist a behavior I sometimes video tape it if I think it will be hard to explain or they may not see during an appointment.  It has really helped me trying to explain a behaviors intensity also.


Quoting haymanisourson:

He does fine when he's away from him during the day. I think as long as he knows he will see him that day. We will usually tell him my husband is at work even if he's not, because he understands that. I've thought he could benefit from therapy, especially for his meltdowns. But its been hard to "prove" any of his behaviors because he doesn't do it all the time.


Quoting ROGUEM:


 Children on the spectrum need routine.  In a structured environment they can behave somewhat if not completely normally.  Change can cause anxiety and distress and the behaviors increase.  Your husband is probably a grounding tool for your son.  My son needs to hold an object in his hand and he is grounded.  Other children stim or rock or play with an object.  Your son would benefit from behavioral therapy that is directed towards helping him learn to ground himself.  He will have to go to school soon and be away from Daddy so it would be great for him to learn it now rather than later.



 


 

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mustbeGRACE
by Member on Apr. 14, 2012 at 10:46 AM

I have a 12 yr. old aspie.

When he was a toddler, up until really about 9 yrs. old, I dreaded when my husband would travel.

The regression was out of this world.

I just don't know why.

I used to get so anxious  for weeks before DH had to leave. I guess I really got depressed in hindsight.

I wish I knew then what I know now.

Things get immensley better over time.

My husband is so good with him.

Now, he just expresses how much he misses him when he's gone.

Seems like so many things clear up when they get to be preteens and then on to other stressful stuff.

haymanisourson
by on Apr. 14, 2012 at 10:54 AM
It was really hard. It was the first time I had ever seen him really sad. He would cry about missing his dad all the time. I had never seen him like that before. It was the most miserable time. I would dread waking up in the morning because it was horrible all day long. Its really made me appreciate how he is normally.

Quoting mustbeGRACE:

I have a 12 yr. old aspie.

When he was a toddler, up until really about 9 yrs. old, I dreaded when my husband would travel.

The regression was out of this world.

I just don't know why.

I used to get so anxious  for weeks before DH had to leave. I guess I really got depressed in hindsight.

I wish I knew then what I know now.

Things get immensley better over time.

My husband is so good with him.

Now, he just expresses how much he misses him when he's gone.

Seems like so many things clear up when they get to be preteens and then on to other stressful stuff.

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