EMT/Referal Meeting for DS advice please!
I am so happy to have found this group. I feel like I have learned a ton, AND had a huge weight lifted off of my shoulders in the last two weeks!
Anyhow, back on task... My DS (6) is scheduled for an Educational Managment Team (the pre-referal/intervention/etc meeting) meeting next Monday per my request. DS has clinical diagnosis of ADHD -combined and Social Function Disorder/ probable Aspergers. I really want to make sure he gets any/all help he qualifies for, but I also know it may be a challenge to frame is needs as EDUCATIONAL needs when academically he is actually advanced.
My big concerns at school are:
-He gets picked on/ bullied pretty easily. The school is handling a known issue on the buss, but DS doesn't ever REPORT stuff (other kids have to tell) so I'm not sure that's the extent of it.
-He gets overstimulated by classroom business and then can't work.
-He gets very anxious about other children in his space, and has a much larger area of personal space than most people. If classmates are close to him he can't focus on ANYTHING other than making sure they don't get any closer.
-He hates surprises, so things that are intended to be TREATS or REWARDS for other kids just cause him stress. (ie "If you do well for the substitute I have a surprise for you on Friday."... he would rather NOT do well and NOT get the surprise)
-He does not have the skills (yet) to work cooperatively with other students.
-He takes things VERY litteraly, so often misunderstands directions or is inadvertently defiant. He doesn't read cues well, so doesn't pick up on teacher non-verbals that would tell him he's doing something wrong.
-He doesn't know what to do with free-time, so he spends recess standing alone or asks to go to the nurse.
What advice do you ladies have for me going into this meeting?
They are bringing the whole team : admin, school psych, counselor, teachers, special ed teacher, etc