Home Schooling A Child with Aspergers
My son (10) was diagnosed with ADHD a few years ago. His school set up an Individualized Educational Plan (IEP) for him. This involved weekly visits to the "emotional support" class for small group interaction and we were given a "communication book" which the teacher would write in daily to update us on our son's behavior.
Two years later and we're worn out. We feel like having an IEP for our son is seen as a huge inconvenience by the school and teachers. The "communication book" has been reduced to a vehicle used to deliver snide comments about our parenting abilities with statements like we need to teach our son not to run the halls, as if we'd never told him that before.
Recently my son has been in trouble for calling out in class or leaving his seat and walking around the classroom. No, his behavior is not acceptable. Yes, I understand that he is being very disruptive. But is anyone asking why he does these things? He is extremely bright, especially in math and science. He reads constantly and has subscriptions to two science/nature magazines. He calls out because the teacher is covering a subject he already knows about and he is excited. He leaves his seat because he is so bored in class. But is there any focus put on his intellectual and academic abilities? No. The school seems to prefer mindless compliance.
In another situation, the students were given a test. as they finished, they were sent one by one into the hall to look at science posters. My son was reprimanded by four different teachers because he was in the wrong part of the hall and was talking aloud to himself. But if my son has a well-established history of such disruptive behavior, why was he allowed to go in the hallway without supervision in the first place? Why didn't any of those four teachers just send him back to his class?
My son's diagnosis changed to Aspergers towards the end of this school year, and it brings up a question for us. Should my autistic son really be expected to behave like other kids his age? Will he really ever completely adjust socially? If we just set aside these behavior issues and social interaction difficulties would be able to create an environment where he can really excel academically?
What issues do other parents run into when it comes to effectively educateing your autistic children?