OMG!!! They got called again!!! AGAIN ladies! :(
I just can't take much more. Along with other things going on, CPS got called on us AGAIN!!!! Apparently we beat Dean and starve Garrett (he's my super skinny child, he looks JUST like my father. I had to show a picture to prove it). JR is out of town and I'm not going to tell him until he gets back, THEN we have to have a "family meeting" with CPS. Also apparently I'm harassing the school? WTF?? I haven't contacted the school since the last time!! I can NOT wait until next year when Dean is in his new school! I thought all of this was settled last time! I want to throw up. I just can't take any more of this..........
For the ladies that are on my facebook, don't say anything because JR will be on with his phone and I don't want him to know until I can talk to him. Thanks.
Thank you all for your love and support and advice. It was the hardest thing to talk to JR on the phone and not tell him, it's going to a VERY long weekend until I can get my support back from him. I'm so tired and worn out. I already had so much on my plate and now this. The boys are in bed and I've opened a beer. OH NO!! I'm drinking a fucking beer, quick someone get on the phone and report me! **eye roll** It feels like a bad dream, but I know we'll get past this and I will be telling EVERYONE I know about this horrible school. They should be ashamed of themselves.
This is my worst fear come true....TWICE because of my ex-husband, he's a drunk and a cocaine head and he could use this court to make my life a living hell. When I told the woman this, she said that because of how long it's been since he's seen them that they won't go to him, they would go to the state! WTF????? My best friend is their godmother and she's known me since we were 16 (we are 33 now), she's been their since day one and knows how to handle all my boys. If the worst happens I hope they go to her till I can get them back. yep, my brain has been in overload today. It has always been my worst fear that CPS would be called and now they have, two times. :( It's like when a cop gets behind you while you are driving and you tense up, you know you haven't done anything wrong but it still messes with you? same thing here. It's just something that freaks me out even though we are good parents.
Quoting brilliantchaos:
With me they prefer to accuse neglect. They tried to call in claiming physical abuse but CPS laughed at them and ever since its been neglect. It really doesn't even phase me anymore, honestly.
Quoting shell3m:it really is. What's sick is, there ARE kids that are being beat in that school but do they focus on them? noooo they go after perfectly happy families. Do we have our meltdowns, hell yes we do but BEATING??? fuck no!! I actually was beat as a child, I personally know the difference and I DO NOT TOLERATE child abuse of any kind. So I sure as hell are not going to have it in my home! I mean, come on now! All of this is so fucking stupid.
Quoting brilliantchaos:
It's really low. And sickening.
Quoting kickinit:That is really low...huh? What a pathetic thing to do to get your way...they should be ashamed!
Quoting brilliantchaos:
We've been called on 4 times since my oldest daughter's diagnosis. It's been the school every single time. CPS in our area is used to it. My best friend was called on 6 times last month alone after she rejected her son's IEP. Schools use this as an intimidation tactic. I know it's scary and it sucks and I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm rejecting my daughter's IEP in part next week so I know I can be expecting a call or visit soon. :(
Quoting shell3m:This is my worst fear come true....TWICE because of my ex-husband, he's a drunk and a cocaine head and he could use this court to make my life a living hell. When I told the woman this, she said that because of how long it's been since he's seen them that they won't go to him, they would go to the state! WTF????? My best friend is their godmother and she's known me since we were 16 (we are 33 now), she's been their since day one and knows how to handle all my boys. If the worst happens I hope they go to her till I can get them back. yep, my brain has been in overload today. It has always been my worst fear that CPS would be called and now they have, two times. :( It's like when a cop gets behind you while you are driving and you tense up, you know you haven't done anything wrong but it still messes with you? same thing here. It's just something that freaks me out even though we are good parents.
Quoting brilliantchaos:
With me they prefer to accuse neglect. They tried to call in claiming physical abuse but CPS laughed at them and ever since its been neglect. It really doesn't even phase me anymore, honestly.
Quoting shell3m:it really is. What's sick is, there ARE kids that are being beat in that school but do they focus on them? noooo they go after perfectly happy families. Do we have our meltdowns, hell yes we do but BEATING??? fuck no!! I actually was beat as a child, I personally know the difference and I DO NOT TOLERATE child abuse of any kind. So I sure as hell are not going to have it in my home! I mean, come on now! All of this is so fucking stupid.
Quoting brilliantchaos:
It's really low. And sickening.
Quoting kickinit:That is really low...huh? What a pathetic thing to do to get your way...they should be ashamed!
Quoting brilliantchaos:
We've been called on 4 times since my oldest daughter's diagnosis. It's been the school every single time. CPS in our area is used to it. My best friend was called on 6 times last month alone after she rejected her son's IEP. Schools use this as an intimidation tactic. I know it's scary and it sucks and I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm rejecting my daughter's IEP in part next week so I know I can be expecting a call or visit soon. :(
garrets starved to death? if hes a thing like any of us were when we were little (my sibs and i were SUPER skinny) he can eat u outta house and home and still want more.
deans beat? um have they never heard of autism? autistic kids hit themselves, beat their head and bodys on things all the time.
somebody just likes harrassing pple by calling cps. hasnt the nurse heard the story of the boy who cried wolf? one of these days cps is gonna ignore her cuz she has called in so many unfounded cases some child will suffer because of her.
I know what ya mean my case is closed but i still get heart palpitations just sending them for a respite day even tho all is good.since i have recently dealt with them one the cps should have you make a list of anyone taht would be willing to take teh kids while you do what they ak whatever taht would be because they well need to check them out.they well prefer ones close to u distance wise pref family but friends may be considered.get a lawyer and consult with them what to do next just so u have an advocate for you most cps workers are human service so i dont agree thats necessarily whoi u want you need an advocate for mama dso a lawyer and a specialist in asd is needed
Shell, hon, that street works both ways. If I were you, I would get a lawyer and sue the school district for defamation of character, harassment, and then take CPS to task for harassment. Just b/c we get help from public agencies doesn't mean they have the right to just make a phone call and control how we raise our children. And seeing as how the school wants to play the "she's been harassing us" card, I would call the SCHOOL BOARD and tell the superintendent you don't appreciate having your family denigrated and harassed by the school's administration. And let them know that if they don't step in and take care of it, you will name them and the people involved w/ these phone calls named in a lawsuit along w/ the school district on a whole.
I don't know the whole story--but my mom went through hell with the public schools where we live with my sister. My sister has Downs and autism. The school wasn't following her IEP, they weren't teaching her..nothing. When my mom started fighting back--they started making allegations against her. The school nurse even had the nerve to say my mom molested my sister because she had a rash down there. That was because my sister wasn't potty trained, and the school didn't change her at all! I think my sis was 6 at the time.
Needless to say, after years of BS..my mom got my sister placed in a all special needs school--my sis is severely autistic..she's nonverbal, still in diapers, ect.
I'm sorry you're going through this. :( *hugs*
Shell-- I honestly cant imagine how you feel. This is horrible. My asd son is super skinny and I swear if any one ever called on me about him I would pull out his growth chart and say thats just how he is. My 3 year old on the other hand is a pork chop. But they have different dads. We are here for you hun.
Field Trip Time!
- shell3m
on May. 18, 2012 at 5:28 PM