So I posted a vent and this lady insists that I try to medicate my child.
So I posted a vent post in the VENT VENT VENT group and this lady insists that I try to medicate my child. I can't believe the nerve of some people.
I never stated that I was against medication: Just that it was not the right choice for my 4.5 year old daughter. Why do so many people insist that this is the only proven tried and true method.
If I chose to make a conscientious decision about raising my daughter: So what. It is my choice to make.
So today is a bad day.
My daughter is Autistic: She is four and a half. Sometimes she goes into these crying fits that just don't stop. Today is one of those days...today is a bad day. I've been trying to talk to her to calm her down but nothing is working.
She just does not want to accept that I said NO to her pulling her bike out and riding it inside the house. That was about 45 minutes ago.
I feel drained and terrible that she is getting so crazy over this. I feel like if I give in, it could spell her doing this every time she doesn't get her way, but I also feel terrible at the same time.
I spoke against medicating her with her psychologists, because she's only 4 and a half damnit. I refuse to medicate my kid at this age.
My boyfriend comes home from work and blasts the television. If not that his reddit or youtube videos are being played or whatever.
So between her crying/having these fits and him blasting his stupid crap, I want to tell him to SHUT UP. I JUST WANT SOME QUIET TIME!
Why does the doctor want to medicate your child and why don't you want to?
It is generally offered by the doctors as a means of 'calming down' Autistic children in numerous cases (regardless of where they lie in the spectrum).
I'm just going to quote and cite, since I don't really feel like writing all of this out: I am in agreement with behavioral therapy (as such my daughter has an IEP/speech/occupational/behavioral therapy along with her having regular and special ed schooling).Quote:
Among the many methods available for treatment and education of people with autism, applied behavior analysis (ABA) has become widely accepted as an effective treatment. Mental Health: A Report of the Surgeon General states, "Thirty years of research demonstrated the efficacy of applied behavioral methods in reducing inappropriate behavior and in increasing communication, learning, and appropriate social behavior." The basic research done...calling for an intensive, one-on-one child-teacher interaction for 40 hours a week, laid a foundation for other educators and researchers in the search for further effective early interventions to help those with ASD attain their potential. The goal of behavioral management is to reinforce desirable behaviors and reduce undesirable ones.
Why I don't agree with medicating my child personally: The moment I say yes to medication is also the moment that I would have to test various medications for my child: At age 4 even suggesting most of these is bad, as this stage of a child's development is crucial. Secondly, you don't know how the child will react to the medicine, whether it would help, or impair her if she were to stop taking it.
When comparing it with a proven behavioral package that works: I chose the latter. I am not saying that parents who do medicate their children for ASD are in any way wrong, it just wasn't for me.Quote:
The medications used are those that have been developed to treat similar symptoms in other disorders. Many of these medications are prescribed "off-label." This means they have not been officially approved by the FDA for use in children, but the doctor prescribes the medications if he or she feels they are appropriate for your child. Further research needs to be done to ensure not only the efficacy but the safety of psychotropic agents used in the treatment of children and adolescents.Quote:
A child with ASD may not respond in the same way to medications as typically developing children.
I hope that answers the question.
I've seen medcation work miracles in some children. I work with many and know that they can be a blessing. Why not give it a try? You can always stop if it doesn't help in any way. Unless you are a medical doctor, I don't understand why you think you know more than he/she does. I understand that doctors do not have all the answers and that that they do make mistakes but you will never know if your daughter could benefit unless you try.
I was a hardcore psychology nerd in college: I was also a biology/pre-vet major: My boyfriend's mother is a social worker.
You are making a grave assumption by stating: I know more than a Doctor because I chose to decline the offer. It is an active choice that was discussed, researched, weighed in on pros/cons, spoken with numerous people and researched: I chose against it.
Making an informed decision is somewhat different than assuming I'm somehow better than someone who specializes in the field. Like I stated, I am not against parents medicating their children, but at her age and with the numerous techniques and services in place: I find it unnecessary.
If my getting exasperated on occasion is the only repercussion of my choice, it's one I am gladly willing to make. :)
Medications can work wonders on children: I don't disagree, but I also don't feel at a stage where my daughter would benefit from it. In a few years, that could change, but as it stands I disagree right now. It is such an early stage in development, that trying behavioral methods should be the first goal, not the last IMO.
Then don't complain when things don't go the way you would like. You can't have it both ways. If you have it all figured out and know everything, you're all set. Why post about it? You already have all the answers. Your daughter is just reacting to all the wonderful techniques and services you have for her.
I'm posting because I wanted to VENT: Hence the title of the chat forum.
If you don't like it - don't bother to reading it. It's really very simple.
I am glad that you obviously have Autistic children of your own and know all about what it's like to raise an Autistic and developmentally disabled child.
If you think for one second that medication will solve a child from having these issues, than you display your own ignorance on the subject.
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