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I have a problem

Posted by on Jun. 7, 2012 at 2:06 PM
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My 4 year old thinks it is perfectly ok to walk up to his siblings and smack them in the head. It was a truck to my 8 month old's face today. It is not out of anger. Which I find 'funny' because if anyone lays a finger on his skin he screeches like he is being stabbed so why he thinks this is a perfectly reasonable thing to do I have no idea! He doesn't understand that it hurts and he should not do it. Please help!
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greenmommo
by on Jun. 7, 2012 at 2:15 PM
My 2 yo does this. As well as squished the cats, etc. They say it's part of sensory processing disorder and recommended an OT that's a sensory integration specialist.
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kajira
by Emma on Jun. 7, 2012 at 2:22 PM
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my son's like that and he's 8. same sensory issues too. LOL scream if you touch him.

For my son - if he acts like that, we seperate him, take away a toy, and he's not allowed to interact with the person for a period of time.

I had his sister when he was in school full time and a bit older than your son and was over protective of the baby until she got big enough to communicate with me if he was bugging her. He'd also went through that hitting phase before i had her in kindergarten and for the most part, hates being punished, so MOST of the time, he's not a hitter.

these days, he steals toys, waves them in her face and laughs while she screams and can't undrestand why it's not funny.

we seperate and time out for that.

sometimes he plays with her really nice, as long as your watching. as soon as you turn your back or go pee, he reverts to the bad behaviors again.


tylerslife
by on Jun. 7, 2012 at 8:47 PM

My son did that too at that age.  He was not interested in the baby and didn't seem to pay her any mind until she became mobile.  Once she was able to sit up and crawl around he would push her over and then stand back.  For him, I think he wanted to see if she was real and what she could do.  He does the same thing today with the dog, kinda nudges her to move.  It never seemed to me like he intended to inflict pain, just cause a reaction.

Consider what response or stimuli he gets after throwing the truck.  Does he look to your daughter for a reaction or you?  Most likely he is courious about the baby and/or jealous of her.  Is your son non-verbal?

Austinsmom4544
by Silver Member on Jun. 7, 2012 at 8:54 PM

I think he's doing it to get a reaction out of you.  How do u respond when it happens?  Definitely have a consequence in place when he does this either a time out or loss of an activity he enjoys. 

ROGUEM
by on Jun. 7, 2012 at 8:55 PM

When the twins were this age, they would do this stuff to each other.  I would follow them around and try to catch the behavior as it was happening and I would grab their hand as it was going to hit the other one.  I would stop the hit and get close to their face and say in simple words.  "No hit"  3-5 times - over and over.  After about 2-3 weeks (shorter for some behaviors and longer for others) they would usually stop.  Now I will admit they would probably try something else like pulling hair and I would have to start over with that behavior.  Eventually we exhausted all bad behaviors they could do to each other...LOL  I think the key is to try to catch it consistently which can be hard to do.

It was funny when we would be out in public and Jonathan would observe a kid being mean to another kid, he would step in and say in his best Mommy voice  "NO HIT"...LOL

twins0506
by Holly on Jun. 8, 2012 at 10:49 PM
Izaiah does this. I agree it does hurt. Especially when you're sleeping and its a remote. -.-
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shell3m
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 11:08 PM

Whenever Dean used to do that I would "smack" him (NOT HARD AT ALL) on the cheek and look him right in the eye and say NO! NO! and shake my head back and forth and wag my finger in a no, no manner.  Then he would get a time out and for the length of his age and then a talking to afterward.  It's a lot to do but it helped so much. 

Now every child is different and what worked for Dean may not work for all, but that's how we had to handle it because NOTHING else worked.  Good luck hun!  and please keep us posted.  ((hugs))

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