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Needing help potty training my 7 year old:(

Posted by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 2:04 PM
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I believe I have tried everything imaginable, but am hoping for something else to try.  I have been trying to potty train my 7 year old daughter who has autisim for atleast 4 years.  I have done everything from having a set time that we go, to giving a treat when we do succeed,  to time out when we have an accident, even just letting her where big girl panties and wetting herself, to just letting her be naked and nothing seems to work.  Frustrated and unsure what to do.  I have made it my summer goal to get her potty trained by Aug. 22 of this year because that is when school is starting back up but feel that it will not happen again:(  Any advise would be most appreciated.

by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 2:04 PM
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by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 2:29 PM

Have you tried observing for a wk or 2 and writing down the times that she goes and then taking her to the toilet at those times?  Also, try keeping her on the toilet 10-15 minutes, so that she has a chance to get everything out.  Give her something special to occupy her when she's on there.  My son has a portable DVD player in the bathroom and gets to watch parts of his fav videos.  

by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 2:38 PM
Have you tried taking her in with you making a big production being excited about how you go so that she can see the whole process. Then just keep doing that, and don't ask your daughter to do anything. Just let her watch over and over and wait till she gives you some kind of signal that she is interested. Also have a non judgemental attitude about what she does
by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 2:41 PM

Should probably stop the time outs for accidents, I hear that doesn't work, but of course that's just what I hear. Try sitting her on the toilet every fifteen minutes, and cheering every time she does anything in it. Every fifteen minutes can get old, but it works for a lot of children. Good luck!

by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 2:56 PM

You know, in "the old days", mothers used to put their child on the potty right after they ate.  Its a common time to have to go..  That's the way Mom was trained, that's the way she trained me.  We were both "toilet trained" by 15 months.  Of course, I"m 46 now, and she's 70... and every time we eat, we have to run to the bathroom...  :o)  In that respect, I'm not sure how much we are actually potty trained, vs how much our respective mothers were trained to rush us to the toilet, but it worked. 

When I trained my kids, I just put the little potty chair in the bathroom.  When I went, they would follow me, and after a little while, would sit on their potty when I sat on mine.  And after a little while, things came out of them... and when it did, I praised, praised praised.  But, this way lets the child be in charge of when he or she is ready. 

I don't know if that would help you...  I have to confess that while I had "special ed" kids, none were ever diagnosed as autistic.  They tested them repeatedly, and knew there was SOMETHING not normal, but nothing that fit in any one catagory so we could get a diagnosis.  You don't say, and I don't know how to ask politely how deep the level of autism is...  I have always kind of thought of it as if the autistic child has one foot in our regular world, and another somewhere else, somewhere we can't see or go.  Do you think  your daughter KNOWS when she has to go?  If she doesn't, you might be  fighting a loosing battle, trying to potty train her.

by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 10:41 PM

Have you tried picture cue cards? We just found out my son has autism. He's three. I purchased a book called "Toilet Training for Individuals with Autism or other Developmental Issues" by Maria Wheeler, M.Ed. We have started with picture cues around the house and are easing into it because that is what his special education teacher will be using in school.

by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 11:17 PM

I'm in the same boat, but mine's a boy.  Much Luck to you.

by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 11:23 PM

She knows because when I had her naked the other day in the house she went and put on a pair of panties and then went pee all over my kitchen floor.  When I have asked her to go to the bathroom she says 'no potty' but then turns right around and goes in her pants.  She just doesn't want to go into the bathroom to go.  I have also asked her at other time to go on the potty and she runs into the bathroom, pulls down her pants and get on the toilet and goes.  She knows when she has to go I just don't know why she won't go on the potty.  Frustrated is all I can say:(

by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 11:26 PM
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I have to tell you that the picture cards work!  But they work in our house for everything but the bathroom:(  She knows how to follow the schedule and routine of them very well, when there is a routine to follow (Like school time), but when there is no set schedule in the summer it is hard for us to use them at the house.  But thank you for your input. 

by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 11:28 PM

I was taking her into the bathroom with a scheduled alarm that went off at the same times every day but now she just covers her ears when the alarm goes off and yells 'turn it off, turn it off".  So I have shut off the alarms and am baffled as to what to do next.  But thanks.

by on Jun. 24, 2012 at 11:30 PM
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My daughter just turned 8 and we are having the same battle and we too, are trying again to get it accomplish by the end of summer. So if something changes and works for you, please please shoot me a message and share !! We are desperate. She doesn't seem to mind if she smells and she doesn't seem to have a regular schedule, plus she has tummy troubles so we have to give her Miralax regularly which means she goes from being constipated to having that makes it so she doesn't want to get out of diapers. Its so freakin frustrating..she has a 130 IQ and reads at 8th grade level, yet her emotional level is at 3/4.. so its all so confusing..I love her so much, she is my only one and as much as Id love to have her stay a baby..let's be realistic..diapers and poop suck..LOL good luck sweetie !
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