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Need suggestions, he's destroying the house (literally)

Posted by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 7:30 PM
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So we have a 3 year old on the spectrum, if he's mad, frustrated, bored, anything at all he runs into a wall in the house or bangs his head against it until someone picks him up. As soon as he is put down again he runs over and does it again.

I thought something might be physically disturbing him so we took him to the doctors and they said these are just autism traits. He started the headbanging again a month ago, he was going a few months without doing it. We tried putting a jacket with foam up past his head on him and he will use any other part of his head to beat the wall. He will also kick it.

Are there any ideas? We can't do anything for 5 seconds without him doing this. He has so far put 8 holes in drywall.

Edit: We have had him on the gluten/casein free diet for about 2 weeks or a little over now.

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 7:30 PM
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by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 7:45 PM

 My son is 13 and I have a similar problem. He gets bored, or frustrated and tries to tear up the carpet, the drywall and the linoleum flooring in the kitchen. I haven't found a solution for it. I just try to re-direct whenever possible

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 8:03 PM
I would research diets and try him on one. Food can reall have a huge affect on autistic children. I know when my grandson does bang which is not often deep hugs or pressure seem to help. Your child is probably in sensory overload, so try putting him in a quiet, distraction free room with a few things he likes and then join him in whatever he is doing. Do this for fifteen or twenty minuets for several days and see if it changes things. We spent hours joining our grandson and when he looks at us we praise him and if he keeps looking we then try to extend the interaction by becoming fun and exciting. In. Year we have a different little boy.

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by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:53 PM
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 Ask for a referral to an autism specialist or behaviorist who can give you practical advice on ways to redirect this physical impulse into a safer outlet.  Also see how the diet helps, it does work for some. 

Some sensory diet strategies may help because it sounds like your son is a sensory seeker.  These include weighted vests, massage, brushing (of the skin), etc.   I'm not sure, from your description, that this is just a frustration or anger issue, and if his need for sensory input is met, you may have fewer holes in your walls. 

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:10 PM
My son pulls up the carpet and peels the paint off the wall. We have an appt on Monday with his psych to talk about how to calm him down and about some meds for his aggressive behavior.
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by Silver Member on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:11 PM

sensory box

I would try to redirect him. Does he like sensory items? We have a special box with sensory items (mostly dollar bin items) for my son. He only gets it when he needs it and we add and remove items to keep it fresh.
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