I have been ready to kick butt all day! My fiance' and I split up in April ,but since my he and my son are so close, we mutually agreed for him to visit with my son on weekends. My ex said that he really wanted to be a part of my son's life and be there for him no mater what. Since those two were so attached, and he was always there for my son anyway, I had no problem agreeing to that AS LONG AS he kept his word and didn't leave my son hanging.
Well, it's been weekend #3, and he hasn't shown up. There is always some stupid excuse for him not to be here for my son. Today, after not calling until 5 pm, it was "I'm sorry, I was out until about six this morning at a drag race with my friends, and I slept all day." I've heard it all-truck broke down, I' m broke and can't take him out anywhere, I'm out of gas, etc....
I can handle it when somebody lets me down-I' m an adult and I understand. BUT-I won't stand for anyone gettting my son's hopes up and dropping him like that! So today I told him off. I told him that if he can't get his prioritites straight and be a Dad, then stop trying. My son needs people that will be there for him no matter what-not a bunch of immature excuses. And if this guy won't be here for my son-then neither of us need him in our lives.
I'm sorry things are working out like that. You are probably right to tell him he's either got to live up to his promises or stop. I have had similar things happen to my son with some of my relatives, and I know it's really painful for the kids. Maybe your ex will realize how he's hurting your son and shape up--I hope so.
Thanks for the responses ladies; I appreciate it. He didn't really respond much at all when I did rip into him-he quietly held the phone and when I said,"Do you have ANYTHING to say for yourself?" he replied,"I'm sorry." That is when I ripped even further and replied,"NO. You shouldn't apologize to me. You should be apologizing to the child that you have called your "son" for the last four years!"
But I made it clear that this is IT-since he is not going to shape up and get his priorities straight, then he needs to stay away and stop leading my son on like he has. I told him that I hope whatever he did last night was worth losing us over, and to stop calling me. Now if he would just stop texting me with his BS....
I hope your son is ok.
wow i don't blame you when they get let down like that hurts them so much
I guess its a mommy bear syndrome. GO MOM! Im sorry, its rough to b let down by someone u trusted. Ull b better for it, the good feelings r gone,and ur son better off w/o the disappiontment. good luck!!!
Mommy Bear Syndrome is no joke lol
And to OP- Good luck!
Quoting MissaEliza:I guess its a mommy bear syndrome. GO MOM! Im sorry, its rough to b let down by someone u trusted. Ull b better for it, the good feelings r gone,and ur son better off w/o the disappiontment. good luck!!!
Sometimes I feel DD will never be able to be on her own :( (accidentally posted in another group as well)
- Gothmom1369
on Jul. 29, 2012 at 6:45 PM