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Horrible Violent Tantrums

Posted by on Jul. 30, 2012 at 12:36 PM
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I brought my son to his 2 year check up last week and the doctor said she thinks he might be autistic because he has a speech delay and will have violent tantrums. There are other signs up those are the really large ones. We are following up with specialist to be sure. I am not upset or anything like that about this news considering it could be a lot worse and other children are suffering a lot more than Jakob. I just would like advice on how to handle his tantrums and more info about autism. I have read a lot on it but I want another parent to tell me what goes on with their children and tell me how they handle and help their children. I really need advice on how to handle his tantrums though. He becomes very violent toward himself he will bang his head against hard floors, walls and toys. He will also throw toys hit me and our dog and because he can not talk I do not know what is wrong or what happened. If anyone else has gone through this please help! I have never experienced anything like this. I feel helpless and I do not want him hurting himself like this. 

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kaffedrikke
by on Jul. 30, 2012 at 12:38 PM
Can you tell.what leads up.to.these melt downs? Are there signs that one is.coming? When my nephew has one its because there is too much sensory information like noise and bright light. Maybe a food intolerance etc. Just watch intently.
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isell_avon
by on Jul. 30, 2012 at 12:38 PM

My son is almost 4 and he was just diagnosed with Autism this month, he is the same way you describe your son. I try to calm him down by talking nicely and not loosing my temper , if i scream i know he will not listen but if i get face to face with him he tends to listen (sometimes) when he gets totally out of control i just let him cry in his room and calm down by himself sometimes he cries for 30 mins but when he's down it's like nothing happened and he is all happy again. 

CaseyMarie92
by on Jul. 30, 2012 at 12:53 PM

Nothing that I know of is setting him off. I know there are times that if I take something from him he will throw huge tantrums. Like I can not take his blankets from him or he has a nervous break down. Or if I interrupt him while he is in the middle of something he gets mad. Other than that all his other tantrums seems unprovoked. 

justfiveofus
by on Jul. 30, 2012 at 1:23 PM

If you can't prevent a meltdown, just keep him somewhere safe.  When my son was your sons age, I would sit and hold him.  I would wrap my arms around him tightly and whisper really calmly into his ear that it was okay, that I loved him and I'd rock him.  That seemed to calm my son down the quickest.  I did end up with broken glasses, and a few fat lips but to me that was better than him hurting himself or his siblings. 

CaseyMarie92
by on Jul. 30, 2012 at 4:00 PM


Quoting justfiveofus:

If you can't prevent a meltdown, just keep him somewhere safe.  When my son was your sons age, I would sit and hold him.  I would wrap my arms around him tightly and whisper really calmly into his ear that it was okay, that I loved him and I'd rock him.  That seemed to calm my son down the quickest.  I did end up with broken glasses, and a few fat lips but to me that was better than him hurting himself or his siblings. 

That is what I have been having to do. It is breaking my heart. How is your son with his siblings? I had a lady tell me that I can't have anymore children now because Jakob would hurt them. 

justfiveofus
by on Jul. 30, 2012 at 6:13 PM

He's the youngest...but he still hurts them sometimes.  I just have to mitigate damages as much as possible.  They know when he goes into meltdown that they should stay away from him and probably near me or they go in my room and close the door to watch tv.  My oldest is actually great at getting through to him when he's having a meltdown, it's pretty amazing to me. 

Don't listen to anyone who told you that you can't have anymore kids!

Quoting CaseyMarie92:

 

Quoting justfiveofus:

If you can't prevent a meltdown, just keep him somewhere safe.  When my son was your sons age, I would sit and hold him.  I would wrap my arms around him tightly and whisper really calmly into his ear that it was okay, that I loved him and I'd rock him.  That seemed to calm my son down the quickest.  I did end up with broken glasses, and a few fat lips but to me that was better than him hurting himself or his siblings. 

That is what I have been having to do. It is breaking my heart. How is your son with his siblings? I had a lady tell me that I can't have anymore children now because Jakob would hurt them. 


Blue231
by Bronze Member on Jul. 30, 2012 at 6:33 PM
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My daughter is about four years younger than her brother with Aspergers. I couldn't leave them alone together for several years, but now that they are older, they are good friends and can even play alone together while I do housework for short amounts of time depending on his mood. I can tell when I need to keep them seperate usually. If my son gets too silly or aggressive, my daughter knows to go to a different room for a while or come get me. It is hard sometimes for her, but she also has some great times playing with her brother as well. His diagnosis did not come till after she was born. I am so glad both my kids have each other even with the challenges from my son's Aspergers.
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newmommy430
by Silver Member on Jul. 30, 2012 at 6:43 PM
Welcome!!!
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aidensmomma508
by Wendy on Jul. 30, 2012 at 10:06 PM

((hugs)) welcome to the group!  for my son if i keep calm and not react to the meltdown, just say hands down and walk away, helps sometimes, sometimes deep pressure like rubbing  ablanket on his back and bum, or swinging,

marisab
by Gold Member on Jul. 30, 2012 at 10:39 PM

my sins tantrums (actually in asd are called meltdowns) a tantrum is deliberate a meltdown aha sno real purpose and a big hug ,weighted blanket/vest and pressure helped him.now hes on risperdone and he slike a ne wkid

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