Hello! I'm Brittni, and I have 2 children, DS, who is 8 and DD who is a month old.
We have been doing some research, and we are almost positive that DS has Aspergers. We say this because EVERY bit of research we have come across, defines him to a T. From the social awkwardness to restricted interests. When he is interested in something... that is ALL he is interested in... Any break in his routine, makes him VERY upset, sometimes to the point of crying. A good example would be that he rides the bus to school EVERY morning... he missed the bus one day, and he got really upset, shut down, went in his room and started crying. I didn't know what to do, how to get him to realize that it's okay to miss the bus because I could just take him to school. Or another example... I didn't do dishes the night before, and had left them for me to do them in the morning because I was tired... When I went to check on him, he was sitting under the table, in tears because he didn't have a clean spoon to eat his cereal with, when usually they are clean.
These are not the only things that we worry about with him. He twists his fingers a lot, has troubles with the kids at school... they always tell him he is the weirdest kid they know... and he just shrugs it off... but I can tell that it hurts him. He doesn't generally talk about his feelings, doesn't respond to people when they talk to him, and doesn't start up a conversation with anyone but his family... and when he does, the conversation is VERY one-sided. If you try to bring something else up, he keeps talking about what he was saying, like he didn't even hear what you brought up. He also uses unnecessary words while talking... sometimes he will add extra words, and sometimes he will use VERY big words that most 8 year olds... or even adults wouldn't use on a normal basis. Then there's the WAY he talks... Idk how to explain it... it's like... he repeats words constantly.. it takes him 10 minutes to tell a 2 minute story. If he gets interrupted, he has to start the whole story over again. He does have some speech impediments, which I am not sure is part of AS. He honestly talks like a toddler, he uses a lot of words that aren't words... no matter how often we correct him... he doesn't seem to understand that he is saying things incorrectly(for example, he will say finded, instead of found). He also has problems with "th" "r" and "sh" sounds. He is aware of these problems though. HOWEVER he has a VERY high vocabulary, and started talking at about 15 months I think. (I am not his bio mom... I have only been in his life as a mother figure since he was 6 and a half, so I'm not positive on his milestones)
There is so much more I can say, but I think you ladies get the point. I am just a momma that is worried about her son. I'm not quite sure how to handle him just yet, so I'm hoping I can get some advice from you ladies. I often get impatient with him, but ever since we have been doing this research, I have become more understanding of his behaviors, and I am trying to adjust. We are hoping to get him evaluated soon, so that we can at least get a diagnosis, and he can know WHY he is a little different from other kids, and why things bother him as much as they do... and maybe we can get him some help.
Well, thank you for reading, and I look forward to hearing any advice you ladies have for me. =)