need advice please.... and please dont judge or bash or think im horrible!
Okay im very nervous posting this, but mabey you ladies will understand (man i wish there was an anoymous button for this group somtimes)
ive had a problem with jude thats reoccuring and no matter how much i try to change its just so hard to
when holding judes hand (or well wrist because he wont let me hold his actual hand most of the time or he ends up squirming away when im holding his hand)
so i hold his wrist when walking to the truck, out in public, in the house when leading him somewhere'
well as you guys should understand alot of the time he fights it
his fight ends up with him throwing himself down, and as he throws himself down i still have ahold of his wrist (because if i let go he runs off)
he also does this not fighting he will jump then not put his feet back down and just fall to the ground (he thinks its a game)
well in doing this the repeatative pulling on his wrist (though it doesnt seem to hurt him) is leaving marks, this has been happening off and on for months.)
i have tried remebering to just carry him everywhere but as you ladys know thats difficult, and i do want him to be able to be trusted to walk just holding someones hand
but it seems impossible.
and when i see these marks on his wrists it makes me feel absolutely horrible, i mean everyone (grandparents friends ect have commented on his sensitive skin) but what if someone sees those and doesnt know?
i need suggestions. its hard to pick him up alot of the time without grabbing him somewhere first to do so, he fights me at every turn (as you guys have read from previus posts)
ive honestly brought up trying to find some type of wrap nthat lets you (as the term puts it baby wear) but basically like a wrap that holds him to my chest or back )
but amber mentioned if i would happen to find one big enough to fit him, he would just kick hit and bite the crap out of me.
i just dont know what to do because carrying him around is a struggle
geting him in a postion that allows me to pick him up easily is almost impossible without grabbing one of his arms first.
ive considered geting wristbands (sweat bands) to kind of cusion his wrists but i dont know if he would even leave them on, or if its even a good idea.
i need ideas mamas im desprate!
i don't want to hurt him or even look like im hurting him!
please tell me one of you moms know what im talking about
and please tell me im not horrible for letting this happen!